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May 05, 2015
Rose:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The way to bring some relief to yourself is to change your perspective. You've taken responsibility for what you did, but now you're attaching more mature adult values and judgment to what you did when you were a child. That's what needs to change.

Remember that you were a child when all of this took place. A vulnerable child who herself was abused. You lacked the skills and understanding needed to make better choices for yourself. My goodness. Think about it. You were a child! You were groomed by people who were themselves grown enough to know what they were doing was wrong; and you mimicked that. It's no great surprise, nor is it uncommon, that you as a child would mimic that.

You've got to give yourself a break by being understanding and compassionate. If you continue on the path of a life sentence, you'll do yourself no good. And you'll do others no good, either. The power behind what happened to you and the choices you made as a vulnerable young child lies in forgiveness. Only then can you truly use that experience in a purposeful way. A way that can help others, either in their own healing or in preventing what happened to you from happening to others.

You can't act on the urges you may now be left with. But what you can act upon are the feelings and emotions that you are now left with by ensuring that purpose comes from what you endured. Purpose, not punishment, Rose.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you love, light and healing energy.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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