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Oct 24, 2007
Abuse victims are often targeted by more than one offender
by: Darlene Barriere

It's not unusual for sexual abuse victims to be targeted by a variety of abusers. And it's perfectly natural, especially for a young male, to find himself in a "pleasurable" situation, even though he being molested. It is perfectly natural for a young male to get an erection and even to have an orgasm when he is anxious, nervous or scared. This is something that many offenders know about their young victims, so they use it against them. They tell them that it isn't wrong, because the child is "enjoying" it. Nothing could be further from the truth. But it is the guilt and fear of being labelled either gay or of enjoying the abuse that prevents most males from disclosing sexual abuse.

Tim, I sincerely hope you are getting some sort of counselling for the sexual abuse you were forced to deal with. You're worth it.

Oct 24, 2007
Thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you for shareing your story, I am a 17 year old female living in Hot Springs, Arkansas and i am useing your story and a few others for a speech on child abuse and neglect. I will be reporting your story as true and will also relate mine...thanks...
Mika

Oct 24, 2007
Please distance yourself from your abusers
by: Cathy (U. S. A.)

Tim:

It was courageous of you to post.

May God have mercy on all of us survivors.

Parents and guardians of utmost reliability MUST instruct children not to indulge in sexual activity of any kind with anybody. Children must be taught that sexual predators should be turned into authorities; family members or not, young or old, male or female.

[Note from Darlene:] The remainder of this post has been relocated to my Commentaries page: When BOTH Parents Sexually Abuse Their Child

Oct 24, 2007
wow
by: Anonymous

that story was touching and made me even cry. i can't believe so many people take advantage of a kids innocence.

Nov 08, 2008
To Tim who was Sexually Abused
by: Anonymous

Dear Tim,
Please don't feel bad for not saying anything about the abuse. There is a good chance you wouldn't have been believed or you would have been blamed.
I was abused by my dad and when I finally spoke up the entire family disowned me after they called me a liar. My father the abuser got their sympathy. My grandmother took me aside and asked me how I could hurt my father so by telling such lies.

I don't know what hurt more, the abuse or not being believed when I finally told. One Aunt said, "Well people do strange things when they are drinking"; letting my father off the hook by blaming alcohol. My father wasn't drunk when he abused me; it was willful, deliberate cruelty. He liked hurting me.

The man who abused you is evil. He tried to break your soul; don't let him. You are not responsible for what happened to you when you were a kid. You are not to blame. A lot of people went through the same thing you went through; you are not alone.

Abusers look at their victims like objects; they just use them and don't care. You are not an object and neither am I. We are human beings with souls. Just because my father had the power over me to treat me as a object doesn't make me one. Same goes with you.

Think of your experience like you were in a prison camp (like that movie with Christian Bale) but you're out now and you can move on. You aren't a victim now, you are a survivor.

Note from Darlene: Anonymous, I've moved your submission to this thread, but I've had to guess at which Tim you were directing your comments. Please let me know if you intended your comments to someone else. Comments can be left for any contributor by clicking onto the Click here to add your own comments link at the bottom of the individual stories pages.

Mar 13, 2009
this happened to me
by: Anonymous

This happened to me when i was 8 years old and this lasted until i turned 21 years of age!!
No one believed not even my own mother!!!!!!!11
My father told me to touch his penis when i was 8 years of age. When i turned 12 he started putting his penis in my butt!!!!1
When i was 21 that is when i left home. Now i am married to a great guy and we have 2 children, 2 beatiful children!!!
I made a promise to God when my dad died that i would never treat my children that way!!!!

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