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May 12, 2010
You're not the "bad" person here...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother has problems, and she's taking them out on you. You are NOT ugly; you're beautiful and unique in your own right. You are NOT a monster; you have been painted as one by the person who should love and cherish and protect you. You are NOT unlovable. You ARE worthy of dignity and respect. Check out my emotional child abuse and types of emotional abuse pages on this site. Once you read the information there, I think you'll be able to draw your own conclusions. But beyond that, you need help. I suggest you contact one of the hotlines listed on my stories page, depending on where you live, in order to talk to someone confidentially. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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May 13, 2010
Cruel: Uncaring: unloving Mother's
by: maurice

Why do some women have children? if they can't love and cherish them as is the right and duty to do so: Behind you Anonyminity 47 there is one absolute human person: Wonderful and beautiful because every Baby birthed is truly a gift, special, unique in their very own right: You have a mother with big problems: Selfish, unkind, incaring neglectful of her responsibilities as a Mother and Parent: You do not deserve to be put down especially by a Mother who has her own problems: Build up your own self worth, you be in charge of your own life's journey: I hope you can get the value of counselling: That will give you a boost to building up your Self=Esteem. Think positive, act positive, be positive. that beautiful person is a must: Don't you be doing yourself down: Your mother has done you a dis-service by doing that: You decide I am not that child of my mother: I am beautiful, I am gifted, I'm special and unique in my own right NOW and forever: Always believe in yourself: I WILL: I CAN: I MUST: BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT: Get my message and it ain't for my good I am saying it to you, but for your's: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: mix and intergrate with loke-minded people who will allow you to be the good and great person you are now: Not all the sh'' your mam said you were: There is no truth in that: It was not your fault she choose to treat you in such a way: I am not to blame: Have a friend or two who will stand by you and help you to build up your self confidence: Darlene has given you ecourageing and helping words to begin with in her comment:

May 13, 2010
Emotional abuse
by: Mike

Like Darlene said, it is abuse. It's emotional abuse, which can be very damaging. Your mother has some kind of problem and needs help. You need counseling to unlearn all the junk and lies your mother brainwashed into you. Everyone is special and everyone is beautiful, including you.

May 16, 2010
I promise
by: Anonymous

Dear Undisclosed-
I promise it's not you!!!!! It's very hard to accept that your mother is the one with the problems - after all, she's your mom and should love you and protect you all the time - but she is the one who is the monster. I too was the 'monster' of the family. My mother and father also made me feel like a bad person (ugly, stupid, ungrateful and unworthy of life with them) - they still do sometimes. BUT, they were wrong. I know it because I now have a loving family of my own where no one would ever say such cruel things. It took me a long time to realize that only my mother and father hated me. No one else. Your bother doesn't hate you and that should be a big clue to you. Also remember that he is not yet an adult and will have a hard time deciding how to handle your mother's rage and your anger. Don't be surprised if he's not sure which side to be on. Your mother forces him to take sides - which is cruel to both of you.
I promise you that you are not the monster. You are the scapegoat and it is not your fault at all. I bet, no matter how hard you try to be good, she says you are always messing up - always not good enough. I bet no matter how much good you do, she sees the bad and brings that to the forefront. I imagine that she blames you for just about everything that is wrong with her life. And, possibly, she has such a good reputation around town, and is respected by others - so you feel that she might be right........ but she's not. It happened to me too, and I promise, it is your mother who has very deep problems, not you.

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