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Jun 04, 2011
Meredith:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Your mother is trying to control every aspect of your life. One of the reasons you are finding it difficult to stop cutting and purging is because it's two things you can control in your life. There's no question that what you're experiencing is child abuse: emotional abuse. My mother and your mother were cut from the same cloth. People like our mothers are so lacking in self-esteem that they pick on those who are helpless against them: their precious children. They play mind games and spew out the most horrible things, because they really see themselves in that light. You are NOT the lies your mother is calling you. Drop the name-calling torch that she's handed you, Meredith. Refuse to one, believe the lies and the nasty names, and two, refuse to call yourself down in any way. You ARE worthy. You ARE smart. You ARE lovable. You're worthy of dignity and respect and love. And though you can't change what your mother is saying and doing, you CAN give your Self what she is incapable of giving you: LOVE. Stay in counselling if at all possible, and focus on your self-esteem, while ignoring the lies she's telling you; because they ARE lies, Meredith. They really are. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Jun 04, 2011
Such cruelty
by: Anonymous

Meredith, your so-called mom is wrong. you are not stupid; you are smart and articulate. You are not an a**; you are not an a**hole; you are not a b*****d; you are not a damn child; you are not cocky; you are not a b****; you are not an attention w***e; you are none of those ignorant lies that she was telling you; you are a good, beautiful person. You are not worthless; you are worthy of love, dignity and respect, all of which you are sadistically denied of. You were given a raw, crappy deal because your so-called parents are so twisted in their own ways of thinking that they don't even know how to take care of themselves, not to mention be parents to you. Oh, and mothers who abuse their own daughters are, in fact, one of the real abusers. Oh, and you deserved so much better than what those brutes did to you; the path that they chose was and still is inexcusable. Oh, and you are not to blame for their sadistic behavior; they are to blame because they chose to abuse you. You were the child; they were the adults; they had all the power and only misused it over you. I really hope that you're in a safe place now. Oh, and I hope that you stay in counselling too.

Jun 13, 2011
Always believe in your self: Get help: You'll be fine
by: maurice

Meredith: Look in the mirror I hope you have a long one so you can see the whole of your beautiful self: No negative vibes: thoughts I am abeautiful: Then read over the two comments and keep telling yourself I am not what my low-self esteem mother keeps telling me I am: I am intelligent: I am caring: I am loving: I am gifted: I tallented: I love me because of who I know I am not who my cruel mother is making me out to be: She truly is saying all that stuff about who she is: You said some thing that meant alot to me: I would prefer if she slapped me then say and call me all such names etc: You know when my abuser stood me for long period of times in my office lecturing to me, making me feel small, a nobody that hurt me more then getting spanked or beaten in humiliation on the bare bottom: Strangely enough I still have a fear of authority figures; So emotional abuse can be more hurting as you say the pain of a slap fades away: Look in that mirror because as I re-read Darlene's loving comment to you: I am convinced if you repaet her affirming words to you and those of anonymous you'll build up your own self worth, self esteem and put in perspective all your mother is making you out to be: so when she say them to you again you'll say I am not that child of yours you must be refeering to the child that you are in making me feel in-adequate etc: Meredith: Now start today being smart because that you are: also begin having a healthy mind in a healthy body: This will mean getting out and taking part in team sports: sporting and cultural activities with your friends and fellow students: Like-minde women your own age: I WILL I CAN: I MUST: Why?? because I am WORTH it: broaden your horizons dream your dream and make the difference: I will Meredith etc I can etc: I must etc get my message: You'll be fine: don't dwell on the untruths your mother says about you: love, value, respect yourself for who you know yourself to be: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: Hi Meredith are you still standing in front of that mirroe repaeating all the positive affirming words of Darlene and Anonymous now hug and cuddle them into you: Ah that makes me feel good: Your the best: new beginnings now seeing you had courage to search for and find Darlene's safe haven site: Do you know Meredith Darlene has a big family and she care about each of us personally:

Jun 23, 2011
She's wrong
by: Finn

Hi Meredith. Your mother reminds me of my own, it's like they're totally similar. I know how you feel even though you may think you're completely alone but it's not true. You're obviously not anything that she calls you and you deserve better than binging and purging. You can stop and you can prove Her wrong by being stronger and braver than she is.
Her words aren't true no matter how hard it is to believe that.

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