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Sep 04, 2008
An enabler for a mother; a viscous beater for a stepfather...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

David, your mother inflicted emotional abuse and she enabled Frank to physically and emotionally abuse you. She was your mother; it was her responsibility to keep you safe from harm. She failed you. I can understand the hatred and hostility you feel for both of them.

David, I relate on many levels, and especially to your "Bozo" haircut. My mother hated long hair. When I was quite young, she finally relented and allowed me to grow it long, but on the condition that I put my hair in rollers every night (rollers that had stiff bristles at their core). The bristles of those wicked rollers dug so deeply into my scalp I thought they would permanently embed themselves. One morning we'd all slept in. My mother was screaming for me to hurry or I'd be late for school, but the curlers were tangled in my hair. I was going as fast as I could, but it wasn't fast enough. In a fit of anger, she reached for scissors and sheared those curlers out of my hair without any regard for what she left behind. My head was a patchwork, a clear-cut of sorts. She then calmly told me to get going to school. I looked at her, horrified by what that meant. "I hope the kids at school laugh their fool heads off at you," she said. "Next time you'll think twice before asking me for long hair."

You didn't deserve to be treated with such viscous contempt and blatant indifference to your suffering. You didn't deserve to grow up without a caring, nurturing and loving mother or up without a father who would spend time with you, wanting to know all about you and just BE with you. You deserved to be hugged and told how much you were loved and cherished, because you were lovable and worthy and precious. You were PERFECT. Nothing about you was anything but perfect.

I hope that writing your story has been cathartic for you. And I sincerely hope you are doing so with the help of a counsellor, someone who can help you sort out the emotional unrest that still plagues you today. You are worth that kind of help, David.

You'll note that I've edited your submission and consolidated Parts 1 and 2; I've done this in order to stay true to the essence of this segment of the site. I want all my visitors to have the opportunity to share their stories, and which means I must set limits to what is included in those stories. My intent is in no way meant to disregard, disrespect or invalidate what you have painstakingly written and bravely shared. I have done my best in the edits to ensure the integrity of your story remains intact. I also kept your anonymity. I trust you understand my position.

Expect Part 2 of your story to appear sometime in the next few days.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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