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Jun 03, 2008
You were terrorized...but no longer
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Blair, the physical abuse your biological dad inflicted on your mother was his responsibility to bear, certainly not yours. HE was the violent one, HE was the insecure one, HE was the one doing the hitting. The blame lies squarely on his shoulders.

Not only did he abuse your mother, he emotionally abused you and your sisters, forcing you to witness family violence. Even from another room, you and your sisters knew it was going on, and you could hear it too; this is a form of terrorizing. I am delighted that you are no longer in that terrible environment.

And I sure applaud your stepdad for "stepping" into the daddy role so perfectly!

As for not being able to "repay" him for being such a wonderful dad...obviously I'm not a dad, but I can assure you, a letter from you telling him how you feel about him and how he changed your life for the better would be the ultimate "repayment." Perhaps as a Father's Day gift to him. But just so you know, the word "repay" doesn't even enter the parental dictionary. The greatest joy a parent, even a stepparent such as your stepdad, can experience is to see their child happy, healthy and doing something they truly enjoy doing. You certainly have happy down, and it seems you are healthy; the rest is up to you.

Thank you for sharing your uplifting story, Blair.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jun 03, 2008
It's Not Your Fault
by: Francine

Blair, whatever your so-called dad (the biological one) did to your mother is NOT AND WILL NEVER be your fault! It's his own, fault, and he should be ashamed of himself! And you are right, Blair, your mother is very beautiful, both inside and out, and unfortunately, I think your first dad probably thought it's alright to abuse you and your mother; IT IS NOT!!! He's just probably heartless and doesn't ever care about anyone but himself...but I'm delighted that your mom walked out on him for good, taking you and your sisters with her because you guys and even your mom have done nothing wrong. I am also glad yur stepdad's with you guys now because he is so sweet for doing that! But to make a long comment short, you might want to try counselling if you're still having problems with your troubled past cuz you are worth getting the help for yourself and for your mom. I wish you, your sisters, your mom and your stepdad all the best! Take care!

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