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Feb 19, 2009
You are PERFECT as you are...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Amber, first I must tell you that your mother yelling at you about "everything" is really about her, not you. She's dealing with something that she is having difficulty with; and she's lashing out at you in the process. What she's doing is not right. Your mother needs help with whatever is troubling her. And so do you, dear.

You are experiencing a form of emotional child abuse called rejecting. That rejection leaves you feeling worthless and unlovable. But you see, Amber, you ARE worthy and you ARE lovable, despite what your mother continues to do and say. Taking your own life would be like making the statement that you are somehow flawed beyond hope and don't deserve to be with the rest of us and that somehow you are to blame...but you are NOT to blame, Amber. And you are perfect as you are. The world needs you to stay with us.

We need people like you, people who can help others understand the effects of child abuse, people to share with others what it's like to go through child abuse and how important it is for us to do something about child abuse. You've started to teach people about the effects of child abuse by sharing your story here on this site, and you're also helping by showing other survivors that they are not alone; that means you're not alone, Amber. The next step for you is to get help for yourself.

Talk to a trusted teacher or a school counsellor or the parent of a friend. Contact Kids Helpline in Canada at 1-800-668-6868. They are staffed with professionally trained counsellors who will talk to you and help you with your options. And right now, you need someone to talk to. Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) is another resource for you. Please, Amber, just talk to someone about what you are dealing with. You don't deserve to be mistreated.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 19, 2009
Life - the greatest present of all.
by: Peter Schmedding

Amber. reading your story makes me sad. I is like so many others where parents simply lash out at their own children. And for the kids it would be very difficult to realise that such parents are like computers that have been programmed with a virus. In most cases they have been abused in similar ways in their earlier years. For them it has become a way of life and they simply have not found the way out of the dilemma.
This is for you a difficult and painful stage of life, Amber. I can only hope that you will get support as Darlene suggested and help you to be strong. The payoff will come when later you will realise that, by ?weathering the storm' now, you have become a stronger and better person. You will remember that life is the greatest present we will ever get and, although it seems odd, those who had a difficult time during their growing-up years, usually receive their rewards in many ways in the years that follow.

Feb 19, 2009
Hey...
by: Anonymous

Hey Amber. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I read your story. I'm doing a research project on child abuse and stuff, because I was once a victim of the same kind of stuff you are going through. I just recently left counseling after a year and a half of it, I was on Suicidal Watch. Let me tell you, suicide is NOT what you are looking for. One day, sit and think. God put you on this Earth out of 6 billion or so people. You are so complex and amazingly built, that you think. You feel. You have your own opinions. You know how to feel sad, happy, mad. You are ONE indiviudal the world will never get again. If you end your life, you are an opportunity that no one will get to meet. Help is out there for you. I want you to find help, please. Don't hold the secret, don't hold back. It's not worth it. If you tell someone, your mother cannot hurt you. You will be safe. Safety and life are two things everyone deserves on this planet. And you are certainly one of them. :)

Feb 28, 2009
Hang in there
by: Anonymous

Hang in there. It's fine to cry just to cry.
Good luck!

May 17, 2009
I know how you feel!!!
by: K.C.

I know people say this a lot but I really do know what your feeling. I always wondered why I got abused, what did I do wrong? You may think that there are people out there that have worse lifes but that doesn't make yours ok. Don't give up on life. It would be a shame to lose such a wonderful person from this world.

Aug 03, 2011
It is not that bad, but it is that bad.
by: Anonymous

Most people think that emotional abuse is not that bad just because we don't get physical hurt. But the verbal abuse can take forever to heal. I know what you have been through. My aunts do the same to me. They blame me for everything and say things like I am fat, ugly, lazy, worthless, have no skills, etc. I have started to believe some of the things they say like I don't know how to cook, clean, babysit, etc. They never thank me for anything i do for them, it's always negative comments. My uncle also sexually abused me but i can't tell anyone, because they won't believe me. I have been proven liar of the family. Sometimes I just wanna cry and not do anything else.

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