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Aug 23, 2011
Rebbeca:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Clearly, there are signs, both at home and at daycare. Unfortunately, if your daughter doesn't corroborate what you say she said to you, then CPS's hands are tied, unless there is more evidence. Four-year-old's are easily manipulated, and they are extremely vulnerable, as you know. It's not unusual for them to take what is said to them and mix it up when being questioned by CPS workers, which is why it's not advisable for parents to be grilling their children when they suspect abuse...parents are too close to the situation and emotions can get in the way. A child is very easily confused, and children read body language like no one can. It's very likely too that your daughter was trying to please you by saying what she said to the CPS worker. Please don't think this is your fault, and don't beat yourself up. I'm only trying to point out to all my visitors what can happen when things are handled in certain ways. Keep the routine normal at home. Keep your emotions in check. Remember, your daughter can read you like no one can. And she will blame herself whenever she sees you upset; that's simply the nature of young children. Have your meltdowns when she is not with you, difficult as that will be.

I strongly recommend some form of counselling for both you and your daughter. Also, you didn't say where you live. If you're in the USA, please contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) in order to talk to someone about yours and your daughter's situation. They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you and be able to give you options and suggestions. They are not a reporting agency. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/get_help

Another resource might be a women's shelter.

I wish you and your daughter all the best, Rebbeca. Thank you for sharing with my visitors and me.

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Aug 24, 2011
LOVE will be your winner: You'll be fine because you want to be a good mother
by: maurice

I believe this Rebecca: A mother's love for her child is natural an real especially when it comes to safeguardng and protecting it from danger and abuse: You are a good mother you'll work with your natural insticts always but NOW you have Darlene's loving, caring, supporting trustworth (spoken from her heart) words of advice: Parenting courses seem now to be the in thing to teach the art of parenting: ( commendable) neccessary and needed but we must not allow parenting to become a head thing: A mother is a very precious woman especially after birthing a child so beautiful naturally: The natural way good parenting took place through the years is good mother sharing from their hearts with each other as neighbours more importantly as friends: Sisters within families also kept each other doing the right thing: I know so many absolute good and great families especially among my friends who are bonded in love as their own family and now are watching out for each other in the rearing, loving and cherishing of their own children: They tell me nothing will substitite for that in a marriage or in the Love of a precious child: Rebecca: Have friends who are mothers whom you can share in total trust and be trustworthy with speaking from your heart: Also some form of counselling a must Rebecca just to put all you shared here with Darlene and her family of visitors into perspective: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: You are a good MOTHER: The best: Just Live well: Laugh Often: Love much: I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE ME AND MY DAUGHTER ARE WORTH IT: Make sense too of what Darlene said in love to you in her personal comment: Parents should not grill their chuldren when they suspect abuse: I am certain there is a huge message of love from her heart in that for all parents: She is a gifted and professional woman with a woman's heart:

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