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Mar 21, 2017
To Nahom:
by: Darlene - Webmaster

To be accused of being "just like" the abuser is among the most challenging of things to deal with when you've been on the receiving end of abuse. But just because someone, or a group of someones, say it's so, doesn't make it so. People who do make such accusations are troubled themselves. People who aren't troubled don't make such terrible statements.

You're still impressionable, so I can understand why these accusations have left you questioning yourself. But you know your own heart, Nahom. While self-examination is an important part of growing up, with maturity comes the realization that though each of us is flawed in some way, that doesn't put us in the same category as an abuser. Keep questioning, yes, but you know the truth of who you are deep down, and that you are not an abuser. Trying to convince these troubled people who have found a way to "push your buttons" is probably always going to lead you to right where you are right now. But convincing them isn't as important as recognizing that you are NOT what they say you are.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me. I send you love and heartfelt healing energy.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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