Witnessing Violence as Emotional Child Abuse

by BMW Princess
(Canada)

Witnessing violence is emotional abuse.

It does not matter if the violence is directed at a parent sibling or stranger.A parent should be a good role model. In the case of children it is a case of monkey see monkey do. If a child sees mom or dad use violence how will she deal with problems? It is a parent's job to provide a good example. The second reason witnessing violence is child abuse is that a small child sees the parent as in control. If a child sees a parent lose control they they think will mommy/daddy be in control enough to care for me? I know nobody is perfect but being a parent is a big responsibility. It is not rocket science Do not use violence in front of a child. The situation becomes more difficult if violence is directed at the other parent or sibling. The child usually loves and empathizes with the victim of violence and fears for his/her safety. The child might even fear that the abusive parent might kill the non abusive parent or sibling. Intentionally causing fear is emotional abuse. If the parent uses I was mad or Your brother was bad as an excuse the child might wonder what happens when the parent is mad at him or her. I was mad also puts the burden for the parent`s actions onto the child. Such a heavy burden for tiny shoulders. Being a parent is about putting a tiny person`s needs before your own. Putting a childs needs before petty grievances hate for your or ex or a need for revenge. Emotional abuse is an underestimated form of maltreatment. Exposure to violence is even less understood.
Written by BMW Princess in Las Vegas Nevada Dedicated to Phadrea




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Feb 26, 2013
BMW Princess:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You have a very good understanding of what witnessing violence can do to a child. Two things I'll add for the benefit of my other visitors: One, when a child witnesses another being abused, they feel powerless to do anything to stop it. That powerlessness leads to a tremendous amount of guilt at not being able to stop it, which for some leaves emotional scars that are often deeper than having been physically abused themselves. Two, witnessing violence doesn't have to only be with the eyes; witnessing can also be hearing or just know the abuse is taking place. Read more about Witnessing Family Violence. Thank you, BMW Princess, for sharing your thoughts on this issue with my visitors and me. Sending you love, light and healing energy.

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Darlene Barriere
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author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir


Mar 04, 2013
Do you think the girl is going to be ok?
by: BMW Princess

Do you think Phadrea is going to be ok?
I mean I don't know her personally. I just heard her story and she reminded me of my BB sis's friend. And don't ask me to pray for her. It helps but prayer is not the only thing this girl needs. I do God smiles down on her. And if you are reading this Keep ya head up Babygirl.

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