Why aren't Mandatory Reporters listened to?

by Name Undisclosed
(Oregon, USA)

My two sons have been repeatedly abused physically and emotionally by their non-custodial father who has every- other-weekend and two-weeks-out-of-the-summer visitation. Numerous reports from myself, counselors, physicians, etc., over the course of 8 plus years; and SCF (Services to Children and Families) has repeatedly stated they won't open a case. At one time, one of their supervisors stated that since the abuse was happening from a non-custodial parent, that was why!

I have been to court several times. There is no protection afforded by the court.

My 12-year-old son recently told a social worker at the hospital and the treating doctor of the abuse. They called SCF, who once again stated they won't open a case!

What good does it do to have mandatory reporting when nothing is done? Any ideas on what else I can do to protect my sons?

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Jun 08, 2008
OUTRAGEOUS and incomprehensible...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I share in your concern and outrage, and I extend my deepest regrets that your sons are being abused by their father AND by the system. I cannot explain the position of Oregon's SCF; I've never heard such an absurd position that the system cannot protect children from non-custodial parents.

I'm sorry to say that I have no answers for you outside of what you've already done. I can only provide a place for you to vent your frustration and despair. Perhaps another of my visitors can supply a more helpful reply, one that will assist you in keeping your sons safe from their abusive father. My heart truly goes out to you and your sons.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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