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Why aren't Mandatory Reporters listened to?

by Name Undisclosed
(Oregon, USA)

My two sons have been repeatedly abused physically and emotionally by their non-custodial father who has every- other-weekend and two-weeks-out-of-the-summer visitation. Numerous reports from myself, counselors, physicians, etc., over the course of 8 plus years; and SCF (Services to Children and Families) has repeatedly stated they won't open a case. At one time, one of their supervisors stated that since the abuse was happening from a non-custodial parent, that was why!


I have been to court several times. There is no protection afforded by the court.

My 12-year-old son recently told a social worker at the hospital and the treating doctor of the abuse. They called SCF, who once again stated they won't open a case!

What good does it do to have mandatory reporting when nothing is done? Any ideas on what else I can do to protect my sons?

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