What I Discovered About Child Abuse

by BMW Princess

Things I that I've discovered: 
1. There's no magic bullet. Recovery is a process. It's really long. You're always recovering.

2.There's something wrong with the person who traumatized you. Not you. If you are traumatized or abused by a person in power, it just means they like taking little power trips at the expense of other people. They are the screw ups. Not you.

3. Excuses are just weak attempts to cover things up. They have no merit. If someone is drunk or his Audi breaks down big deal. It doesn't matter. You don't take advantage of people.

And one thing I still need: I need someone to agree with me. To say What happened was wrong and "I hate him too." Then these things I've discovered list will be complete.

We are always discovering.

P.S Sorry for any spelling mistakes I havn't had my coffee yet:)

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Dec 13, 2010
BMW Princess:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You ARE right in the things you've learned. And I hate the behaviour of ALL child abusers. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this with my visitors and me.

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author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Dec 13, 2010
I agree!
by: My Two Cents

Well, you wanted someone to say they agreed with you.

I'm with you on number one, the process thing, and number two, there being something wrong with the abuser. I am not sure number three goes far enough...

I really wish I could read minds sometimes! It's hard for me to understand why someone just decides to abuse - everyone starts somewhere...I don't really see any logic in forcing a child to have sex with you because your car broke down. How does that get your car fixed? The only thing it MIGHT do is put you in a situation where you are in control...but the consequences are so severe, WHY???

Bah. I guess I have to accept people are not logical.

My thoughts anyways.

Be well.

My Two Cents.

Dec 14, 2010
I agree with you.
by: Terese

I agree with you.

What happened was wrong and yes, I would hate him too...

Keep on discovering and take care of yourself, BMW Princess.


Dec 14, 2010
I agree also
by: Kris

I agree 1,000,000% with what you said I have been in the recovery process for about nine years. I currantly have no therepist though I attend an art class at my local CMH. I know that it's a longg road but it's well worth it!

Dec 16, 2010
number 3 was hyperbole
by: BMW Princess

I was actually making fun of him and all other pitiful insecure homo sapienswho take advantage of ppl they think less power.I was saying Well this guy can't take responsibility for his own actions. with homo sapiens like that there's always an excuse.

Dec 18, 2010
How wonderful on the mountain are the feet that bring good news: Good News:
by: maurice

It is always good to read positive discoveries about child abuse: Much thanks: you are a bearer of good tidings. Good on you:

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