Unable to make love with my husband: Could I have been sexually abused as a child?

by Kilee
(USA)

Needing Advice: 
I came across this site hoping to find some answers.
This may sound crazy but I do not remember being sexually abused. But I do have all the symptoms of someone who was. There are huge blanks in my past though, so is it possible I do not remember it? If it did happen, how could I remember it or do I even want to? I cannot make love to my husband! It is causing problems because neither one of us understand. All I can tell him is "it's not you" But even though I tell him that, he believes it is. Pretending it's all okay in the bed is not working anymore. I JUST CAN'T DO IT! But it is NOT my husband. I Very much love him. Hope you can help.

Thanks,
~needing a solution

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