The Effects of Child Abuse

by Sarah

Child Abuse hurts. It hurts really bad. It changes who you are and how you move in the world. Cautious, fearful and shame-based, you live hiding, often contemplating suicide. Drugs, alcohol, self-harm, eating disorders or other addictions take over - all ways to cope, to numb out, to not feel the pain of believing you're different, you're wrong. The shame causes you to have panic attacks, making you believe you are loosing control and are powerless to stop it. Or maybe you fight and think you have to fight the world and people become afraid of you and your out-of-control rage.

Overcoming these effects is possible but it takes time. A long time. You need safe supportive people in your corner. You need to relearn to let go and trust and breathe again. You need to replace the thoughts that overwhelm your mind about how bad you are with those that tell the truth of your goodness, your uniqueness, your right to live in freedom and peace.

For me, it was through my faith. Not religious rules, but a deep sense of the love and gentleness of God. Even with my faith, it took an awfully long time to heal. And I still have areas that need work.

The effects of child abuse live long after the abuse stops.

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Apr 05, 2009
Excellent article!
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Sarah, you've pinpointed so many of the effects of child abuse. I couldn't agree more with your position on the way we think of ourselves. When we change what we think about who we are, we change how we feel about who we are. And though this may be difficult at first, practice makes it easier to believe those newly created thoughts. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about child abuse, and your healing process with my visitors and me, Sarah.

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Apr 05, 2009
Oh Oh how true you are Sarah
by: Maurice

Honesty comes true in all you share in the telling of your story. I have experienced and put myself through a fair share of it all. But certainly for the past twelve years I have put a greater value on the real me. I have prayed, I have acknowledged that God created me beautiful, knit me together in my mothers womb and birthed me a lovely gift and child to her in 1946. I now hug myself alot, I have a fantastic mirror image of myself. because I love me. You too hopefully will arrive at where I have too. It certainly takes a long time for each of us to overcome our abuse. We all have our own way of coping with it. I used negative ways some of which you mention Sarah. Once I said no to those ways, after acknowledgeing that I had been abused. Then a whole new world of me came alive. Darlene's site has enabled me to have a greater and higher respect and love for myself. and accept that I am special, I am beautiful and I can love me. even at sixty two I can do that. it certainly helps me to live my life to the full. thinking positive, acting positive and being positive making a sense of my life each day and all that happens me. Sarah Thank You. Good on you. Hi find that one friend or friends and just be your now beautiful self person with them, aloow them to love for who you are now. Keep working at getting all the right help professional and otherwise from your friends. Be brave, be strong and persevere at accepting the lovely woman you are now and have become after all you've journeyed through in your life. Let your faith be your inner peace and stre ngth.

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