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Sep 26, 2007
Amen
by: Stephanie Braski

I agree completely with what you have written. Parents can be so hypocritical-hit children then tell them not to hit others. It's the "do as I say, not as I do" philosophy. It does not work! Children learn from example, parents need to be positive role models. There are so many other ways to disciple children that is not hurtful in anyway. The point of teaching children is to set up a learning experience and putting them in a situation where, with limits, they have to choose positive behavior and choose to make good decisions. The example of losing the ball is ludicrous. Parents tend to lose perspective-I agree, it's a $12 ball. A natural consequence would be-the ball is gone now, the child no longer has a ball to play with. Or, the child has to reimburse for a new ball through working for $12 worth of repayment. I also agree that people tend to take the "spare the rod, spoil the child" to literally. I agree that it is a metaphor for guiding and teaching the child right from wrong or a maladjusted (spoiled) adult can result. It is very disappointing that adults can think so irrationally and, rather than take responsibility for their own out of control behavior, the child is blamed for behaving like a child.

Oct 02, 2007
Cycle of Violence
by: JWC

Besides all the disturbing responses from the general public, what I found to be very eye-opeing was your reference to the cycle of violence. I never stopped to think about the fact that there is a progression of phases when it comes to violence. It makes perfect sense that it applies to child abuse every bit as much as it applies to relationship and domestic violence.

Nov 21, 2007
Child Abuse Is Not Right
by: Tory

Growing up in a family of four, one girl and one boy, my mom spanked my brother and me. My brother was the most disciplined and from my mom's perspective, it was because of his lack of concern for school. Looking back on my childhood, it causes me to disagree with the comment, "All my friends got the belt when needed at any age. And guess what . . . nobody from my generation even considered shooting up a school or hitting a teacher." It's people with this attitude (not believing in the use of a belt on a 5-year-old) that has caused the lack of respect the youth of America has for adults. "Stop trying to be their friend and be a parent," and "I got the belt and I turned out just fine." One may as well say I never got more than just a simple month of punishment, nothing more than homework and school was aloud. "I turned out just fine," should be the statement used for someone in my situation. I feel if a child wants to be "bad" or disrespectful, they will do so not because of their upbringing, but because of the peers around them. In my opinion, a child does not always reflect what has been taught in the home, but what has been taught from the peers.
In addition, the part of the comment where the reader states, "All my friends got the belt when needed," when exactly does anyone at any age deserve to be beat with a belt or any device for that matter? No one should never be beat or whipped for something that they have done. I disagree with this treatment, I feel one should be talked to about the issues they may be having for why they will not act in the appropriate manner. The situation may have nothing to do with them being a "bad" child; however, they may just be hyperactive. Parents never thought maybe the child cannot help the way they behave.

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