Not Me My Brother

by Juliana
(Tennessee, U.S.A)

My little brother went through tons of verbal abuse. And also physical. He was hit, slapped, pushed around, and beaten and also endured yelling and screaming from my mother. I remember me sitting at the kitchen table at 9/10 years old doing math and hearing my little brother screaming and the ceiling banging (our kitchen was below his room). My mom favoured me over him. Most children would be happy to be the favourite, but not me.

He was soon taken away by the social workers. We don't get any updates or anything. Yet my mom wasn't arrested.

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Jan 29, 2016
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Witnessing abuse, whether you actually see it or hear it or even if you're not there but know that's it's going on (like when at school, for instance) is a form of emotional abuse. The person hearing or seeing or knowing that one of their family members is being abused feels helpless and powerless to do anything about it. The cries coming from the person being abused can live with the "favourite" forever. In other words, witnessing abuse terrorizes a child, and has lifelong adverse affects. Scars run deep in those who witness abuse. Not to mention feelings of guilt for not being able to prevent the abuse and for not experiencing the same mistreatment as the abused child. It's a form of survivor's guilt.

It sounds as though your mother targeted your brother. There is no acceptable reason for her doing so, only explanations that may bring more light and understanding to a situation that doesn't and can never sit right. She should have been arrested and charged.

If your brother is still around and you have a relationship with him, and of course, if he's willing to talk openly about what he experienced at the hands of your abusive mother, it could be extraordinarily cathartic for both of you to discuss what went on. And how each of you felt and still feel. If you haven't already done this, there can be tremendous healing for both of you if you'll take the chance and allow that negative energy to be released through a powerful exchange of sharing.

I send both you and your brother love, light and healing energy, Juliana. Thank you for sharing both yours and your brother's story with my visitors and me.

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