My Best Friend's Child Abuse Story

by Kendra
(Michigan, USA)

I had a very good friend up until February 4th 2007. She lived with her mother and two brothers. At first when she would tell me things it didn't click with me what was happening and how much worse it would get. She told me when she was about 10 and I was 11 that her brothers would urinate into cups and pour it on her while she was showering. Not long after that her and her family moved and came back. Her brothers were bigger than her by that point and her mother was never there.

I only stayed the night at her house once. Her brother ended up slamming my head into the corner of the couch and then her other brother came home high. Needless to say, the mother wasn't there.

She told me about one of the holes in her bedroom wall which was where her older brother had put her head through it. She would stay entire weeks at my dad's house even if I wasn't there. She once walked to my house with no shoes because her brothers wouldn't let her have them. We did report the abuse once, and there was a restraining order but by that time it didn't matter.

On Thursday February 7th 2007 she died. Because as a result of the beatings from her brothers she began having seizures, her mother wouldn't keep up on buying the medication, and by this time when she finally had a chance and was on her own she had a seizure in her sleep and passed on. She was like my little sister. And now when I visit her grave I can't help but be angry because all they gave her as a grave marker was a wooden cross with her name on it and a rock. I wish I could have done something more for her. I miss her with all of my heart.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coachNote from Darlene: I welcome you to follow me on my Facebook page at Healing from Child Abuse. When you get there, don't forget to click onto the Become a Fan link. I hope to hear from you there!

Email addresses, phone numbers, home addresses AND website/blog URLs in submissions and visitor comments are STRICTLY prohibited. Please don't include them, as they will be removed.

Comments for My Best Friend's Child Abuse Story

Click here to add your own comments

Nov 10, 2009
Your friend's life HAS made a difference...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Kendra, I see something that you don't. You gave your friend the most precious gift of all: your friendship. She died knowing that you loved and cared about her. Her life was filled with abuse at the hands of psychotic brothers and an uncaring, criminally neglectful mother, yet she had you as her ray of sunshine. She didn't live long on this earth, Kendra, but the few brief years she had here were made so much more special because she had you in her life. Don't ever lose sight of that. The wooden cross and a rock that mark her grave aren't important; what's important is that you remember her in your heart, and that knowing her will make a difference in your life. In that way, her life (and death) has purpose, Kendra. She didn't die without purpose because her memory lives on in you. Thank you for sharing your friend's story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Nov 10, 2009
A willing enabler for a mother...and sadistic beaters for brothers...
by: Anonymous

Kendra, I'm so sorry for your loss. I really hope that your dear friend did not die in vain and that those sadistic monsters for brothers and mother get incarcerated for all those terrible crimes that they committed against her. I can relate; in fact, my brother abused me, too, and no one cared about me...just themselves. I hope that you try counselling and that you talk to your family about it because your friend deserves to be remembered forever and no one, let alone your friend, deserves to be mistreated in any way. May she R.I.P. Let's pray for her every night. Thanks for sharing this story with us because it truly breaks my heart just reading it.

Nov 11, 2009
I believe friends are made from on high God Heaven
by: maurice

Being any only child I regard my special friends as family Kendra. Oh please take to heart what Darlene has written to you in her comment. All from her heart to you genuine and sincere words I assure you. I would sy they are real and natural from her heart to yours. A womans heart after that nake a real sense of them to yoursefl Kendra. What a friend she had in me you can deffineately say for your own peace of mind. She trusted you with her whole self, physically, mentally and heart truthful. When it looked like she had no one else in the world to love and hug her and be there for her. I was, you were Kendra. Headstones only let us know who is in a particualr grave, You and I know that person is etched forever on our hearts as true human beings and our friend. She carried to her grave all the LOVE you showered on her while ye walked and talked together and hopefully when you hugged each other in total showing of your friends feelings for esch other. Oh Kendra, you are, were the best I or anyone could have as a friend. Hi she is your inner strength still to Always believe in yourself. She's an Angel from on high, know her spirit will never leave you. You soothed her wounds and bruises mental and physical her cruel brothers who abused her left on her. A friend in need is a friend indeed. That is what you wer to her Kendra. Hi, begin to acknowledge the wonderful and beautiful person you are. Love yourself. begin having a very special mirror image of yourself. I am the positive, nice adjetives I use to discribe myself. Let go of any negative thoughts you have about yoursefl or that beautiful body of yours. You were birthed beautiful. No one can take that away from any of us Kendra. I am saying it to YOU but you must Believe it. God created you so.

Nov 15, 2009
A good friend
by: BMW Princess

It sounds like you were a good friend.
You can keep her memory alive. If you believe in life after death you will see her again in heaven

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Child Abuse Article - Write one.