For those children and 'adults' who feel pain

by Friend
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Remember, "I am not my pain". I am not my pain anymore than I am the wound on my knee or the blister on my skin. And I can talk about my pain—that shows that I am separate from my pain. When the pain is immense it tries to overwhelm me, but it is not 'me'.

Nor am I my pleasure. 'I' am actually greater than pain or pleasure. I can talk about both, see both working around me. I do not detest them; they are doing what they love to do.

So watch them as you watch the sparrows flutter and the insects buzz. As you learn to watch them, you can grow to be amused by them. And you grow beyond them—to be you.

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Jun 30, 2009
Comment moved here to its own page...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I moved your comment from the "Pain Body" thread of "Awakening" into one of its own; it was far too special to leave there as a comment. Your words of wisdom will reach more people post here. Thank you, Friend, for sharing your wisdom with my visitors and me.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jul 01, 2009
a true friend is a link in a chain that bonds two people together
by: maurice

Friend, nicely put, Here in Eire/Ireland your words sink deep within me and I sure can identify with your sharing with Darlene and her many visitors of abuse. your words place abuse exactly where it should be with the one who caused the pain, the wound on the knee, the blister on my skin, the unseen scars on my tender bottom cheeks. They don't go away, but I can talk about them now to people who understand and emphatise. Thank you FRIEND. from your heart to me and many. It was too SPECIAL to leave hidden. Thank you Darlene for moving it. It is great peace of mind knowing you are still watching over your site.

Feb 13, 2010
Pain passes
by: Anonymous

During treatment for abuse a moment comes when pain rises and needs to be worked through. Such pain is intense, like an oxy welder seering the brain, but gradually the feelings diminish and then pass. What happens after sitting with the pain is that you will feel amazingly alive; as if the reward for suffering is a contrasting sense of bliss through reconnection with yourself and the world. sit with the pain and if you can enter it to emerge with greater insight into your feelings along with greater compassion for anyone else who suffers. A strange paradox arises where pain can serve as a gift, which sharpens the depth of your understanding and capacity to feel. Ironically, pain opens the door to your ability to experience peace and joy.Dive into the dark to emerge bathed in light.

Feb 14, 2010
Return to Sender
by: maurice

Special reminder from Darlene and you gentle person, A quote from Darlene it was far too special to leave as a comment. She knows best. It is a timely reminder to me this mmorning as I celebrate Valentines Day remembering all the wonderful friends in my life who LOVE me genuinely in respect and who walked with me through my pain when I related to them I was abused. They were my comforting uplifting real and true freinds. Who allowed me to share with them in my nakedness from within after being absued. Real trust in total RESPECT. Thank you for your uplifteing gifted words of hope. Good on you, your the best and you have a big hearted woman in Darlene to affirm you.

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