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An exchange with Tim: intervention vs prevention of sexual abuse
Tim lives in Calgary, Alberta, Canada Tim's comments were originally posted to my Child Abuse Comments page; they were posted with his permission. I have reproduced excerpts of our exchange on this page in order to help visitors find the information they seek on this website. Tim brought up some excellent points in his letter to me. We discussed the intervention and prevention of sexual abuse. I hope the internal links included in my reply will help you, my visitors, find what you are looking for. Tim's e-mail received February 7, 2007: I my case, my parents knew something was wrong and did ask a few questions but didn't bother to look into it to the degree needed. I did not tell anyone, but secretly prayed that someone would figure it out, and looking back, truly feel that any number of adults that I was in contact with at the time should have asked the questions! Although I was unable to tell anyone, I was open about displaying the warning signs and behavior changes, hoping someone would help me. If only someone had noticed or taken the time to look into it. Another topic that seems to be missed is the survivor guilt. Because I said nothing, my abuser went free. I know for a fact that at least 6 other young boys had their lives destroyed because I did nothing to stop him. At least one took his own life. If only I had done something! Hell of a thing to life with! Tim My reply: Tim, there are several pages on my site that cover the issues you pointed to in your comments regarding prevention of sexual abuse. I tend not to direct any of the points I make on my various pages to parents, because all too often it is a parent doing the abusing. Not always, but often. I chose instead to be more generic in my references. What you are looking for is scattered throughout my site. I have my reasons for setting it up the way I have, and I have to be careful not to duplicate information, otherwise I will be penalized, even dropped by the search engines. What you referred to is intervention. My Intervention page does give more information, perhaps not to the degree that you are looking for specifically, but in combination with many of my other pages, you may find what you are looking for: http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/child-abuse-intervention.html Other pages that give a great deal of information regarding sexual abuse, signs and effects that I urge you to check out are: http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/sexual-abuse-disclosures.html http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/sexual-abuse-signs.html http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/sexual-abuse-effects.html http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/sexual-abuse-victims.html http://www.child-abuse-effects.com/male-victims-of-sexual-abuse.html I hope the information contained in these pages helps you, Tim. Heaven knows, what you've lived through definitely entitles you to all the information available. Sincerely,
Subsequent exchange from Tim--an excerpt--received February 11, 2007: Dear Darlene. Thank you for taking the time to reply and for all the support and information you have given me. I have read the pages that you suggested and I see that in a round about way you do address the areas I was talking about. Reading these pages does provide some insight and comfort (as strange as this may sound!) to know that I am not alone. Tim
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What you are about to read is an e-mail exchange with Tim, a child abuse survivor and one of the story submitters to this website (see 
