Even a Murderer Knows Child Abuse is Wrong

by Name Undisclosed

My "Handicapped" Neighbor: 
There I was, in my front yard watering the plants, listening to the birds. In my mind were images of beautiful landscapes of mountains and pines, kinda like Flagstaff. But the reality was a town that grew too fast called Nogales. There I was, watering the trees when an acquaintance of mine...Acquaintance? yes. He was a bartender at a pool hall I practically lived at.

He used to be a solider in the Mexican army. He came from a broken home, drugs, gangs, and what not. He was the type you don't mess around with. After leaving the army, he became a hitman for a notorious drug cartel. He worked for them for several years, until he got busted. He served some time in prison. I even remember him telling me that he had raped a man in prison. This man is the type of person that you never want to meet.

While drinking at the pool hall, I recall that on various occasions while he was bartending, some of the clients would get aggressive with him or others and he would just jump over the counter and beat the s**t out of them, sometimes leaving them unconscious, sometimes beating 3 or 4 of them. One time I saw him break a man's arm....

Now, I said he was an acquaintance. Obviously, I didn't consider him a friend because I didn't trust him. How could you? Well, he never messed with me or my friends. But on that day, while I was watering the trees, he walked past my house. He didn't know where I lived, he was just passing by and saw me watering the plants. When I saw him I thought, "This psycho knows where I live." Well, he had a pit-bull with him that he was training. He had just taken to a veterinarian that is close to my house. He just said hi and was telling me about the dog and vet. While he was telling me that, my neighbor from across the street came out of his house to start picking up the s**t his dogs had left on his driveway. My neighbor's daughter, a 1-and-a-half to 2-year-old toddler came out of the house after him. For some reason my neighbor started screaming a the little girl, telling her to get back in the f***ing house, calling her an idiot, telling her that he was going to slap her. The "bartender" turned around and looked at my neighbor, then he turned to me and he said, "That man over there is disabled. Just like some people are born without a leg, a hand, a finger, he was born without the capacity to understand that he is dealing with a child that has a brain that is not yet developed like that of an adult, therefore they cannot comprehend like an adult." After he finished telling me that, he turned around and screamed at my neighbor that if he didn't shut the f*** up, that he would kill him. Then he turned around to me again and said, "Nice talking to you. I'll se you around". He left, and I haven't seen him in like 4-5 years. He might be in jail, dead, killing, I don't know...but anyways, it was an eye-opening experience, this man, this murderer, this monster, he knew that it was wrong for a parent to hurt physically or mentally a child. He knows that you have to be patient with your kids. It's a 1-and-a-half to 2-year-old mind...

My neighbor didn't do that again, a least not outside his house.

It just makes me think, if this monster knows it is wrong, why can't Mommy or Daddy?

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Mar 25, 2009
Food for thought...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

It's one thing to know that it's wrong to abuse a child; it's another to stop oneself from abusing. While I can understand your question and the comparison you are making with this murderous monster and the parents who abuse their children, the fact remains, most abusers know what they are doing is wrong. Still...you offer food for thought.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on child abuse with my visitors and me.

P.S. You'll note I edited out the profanity in your post, since I did not feel it was necessary in the telling of your story. On that issue, we disagree.

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Mar 25, 2009
Hallo Mexico, keep looking for the Good in people
by: Mrs. R.

Hi,Thats a really good point you make. If we look hard enough most times there is always good in a person, for various reasons it gets knocked right down to the bottom and can get covered over with a very hard crust. I believe you were very fortunate to see some of the goodness in this chap, I feel certain he does not show that side often if at all.
If only Abusers could see ahead at the crippling damage they do to their children. The pain and suffering that lasts a whole lifetime even after the Abuser has passed away.
My question is would they still do what they did?

Mar 26, 2009
acting ignorant is no excuse to abuse.
by: Maurice

pig headed down right ignorance does not excuse abusing a 1 and have year old baby/child. if one spends time behind bars one has 24 hours a day lying in one's cell, doing what? I believe there is no human being ever born so pig ignorant and without feelings. sadly nature begets nature from time to time and the abused abuse. Until they realize it is not the way to live their lives by effecting the lives of others. That is where a true frind is the carat of gold in ones life.unfortueneately Alot of damage has been done in the mean time by such ignorant individuals. So my friend I cannot accept that this brute of an individual did not know what he was doing to this child. Handicapped, yes is is the kind way to put it but it still does not justify him being him the way he was. Deep down there's goodness in everyone born and maybe if us males realized the pain our mothers go through in birthing us we would never want to cause pain to another. I hope I don't offend any woman/mother by sharing this I cannot ever understand a mother/female abusing a child or their children. Mothers give their boys the sensitive mothering feminine side of them. Sadly we men are not man enough to acknowledge that. Big boys cry and it is good for us from time to time. Even a murderer knows abuse is wrong.

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