Child Abuse - Right to Privacy an Issue

by Anonymous
(Location Undisclosed)

Still happening at 47: 
It's so incredible to read all these stories, it makes me feel like I have an invisible family to relate to. So much of this the pain is the fierce loneliness and isolation, holding onto hope that somehow the offenders will see the terrible damage they are doing but they seem to be so damaged themselves that they are blind and oblivious to the never ending put downs and poisoned insults they hurl at their target and it is a one and only chosen target. He/She who will take it and not stand up for themselves and even when you do try to defend yourself they can get even worse. Part of it is trapping you and making you utterly dependent on them so you feel you have no way out.

It seems like a power thing, a demand for you to respect them no matter what. A feeding of their ego and their insecurities. These stories are so important, there are times when I don't think any family should be allowed privacy,times when I think every new parent ought to be policed at home with live in police until that child is of age and ready for independence. There is so much hidden abuse and it is too late when the damage is done and it is all done behind closed doors because people have their right to privacy which they abuse over and over again.
It may seem crazy but maybe this right to privacy should be earned when there are innocent children involved, their lives forever ruined by their own families. Maybe this ought to be debated on the world stage as an emergency.

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May 10, 2012
To Anonymous:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Child abuse IS usually done in the privacy of closed doors, though those closed doors don't necessarily prevent neighbours and family from suspecting or knowing that abuse is happening behind those doors. All too often, the real privacy issue is the one where people who do suspect or know that child abuse is going on simply decide that it's not their business to act, that it's a privacy issue best handled by the family involved. Recent studies still show that the majority of people would not report incidents of suspected child abuse. Even mandated reporters often do not make a report. So we still have a long way to go when it comes to reporting. We also need to have more support systems in place for new and not-so-new parents, support systems that help parents with all aspects of child-rearing and expectations. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this issue with my visitors and me. And always remember that as an adult, you now have choices in your life, choices you didn't have when you were a child. Sometimes the first of those choices means putting distance between one Self and family members, if that's what it takes for healing to begin. I send you love, light and healing energy.

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Darlene Barriere
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

May 11, 2012
Touched by your idea!!
by: Rita M

Dear Right to Privacy,
I really agree with you 100%.Abuse is so hidden because the abusers know they are aware of what they are doing wrong.Although there are children
that are grown survivors and think they were taught right and don't even know they are abusing their child.OR The child knows how they were abused and don't know how damaged they were until they had their own children.I was in a foster home that were surounded by professional people
like doctors,police,teachers,dentists were all
very close by and yet when I ran away I was put right back into the home again by the police.Workers came when it was too late and the damage was severly done already.My doctor at the time was my foster parents friends and never cared to look to see why I was in such horrid shape.I would've love to have had you back then with those rules of a live in police or social worker or what ever profession because anyone in a profession has to by law report abuse.I wish your laws could be passed as top priority.Thankyou for your input here.I don't know if you are professional but ,it would be appreciated if you were.I was a very battered child and because of that I am on a disability.
The one thing I could do is at least help someone too.My foster parents were and still are pillars
of the town to this day.I still wander how safe the children are.You have touched my heart.God Bless you.
Rita M

May 11, 2012
The Right to Privacy
by: Anonymous

Dear Anonymous. I read your article and it did bring some healing to me as a survivor of child sexual abuse. It is so true that child abuse does happen behind closed doors. I wish the law would be stricter with child abuse offenders. I am now coming to realize that what happened to me as a child is not my fault and the offenders do use power against their victims and also have issues themselves. Thank you so much for helping me realize this. Bless you.

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