Child Abuse Effects dot com Announcement and Regarding My Comments

by Darlene Barriere - Webmaster
(Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada)

Announcement and Information I Want You to Know

Announcement and Information I Want You to Know

To My Visitors: 
I'm so excited to announce that as of two days ago I started writing my next book, Healing from Child Abuse: Affirmations, Validations and Words of Wisdom. This book has been in the planning stages for about a year and a half now, but there have been so many responsibilities associated with my website that, beyond chapter ideas and a basic outline, I have not been able to actually sit down to do any serious writing.


In order to get to the actual writing, I've had to make some very difficult choices; choices that I've been holding off on for at least a year.

Many of you may have noticed that I've only posted 1, perhaps 2 stories on any given day during the past week or so. What you don't know is that I always have a minimum of a dozen waiting for my approval to go live on the site. At this point in time, with the occasional exception, it takes more than a week for me to post a story. That means that if you send me a story today, I won't be able to get to it until this time next week, perhaps even later, depending on how many story contributions I receive daily. This isn't fair to those who have so courageously written their stories for myself and others to read?and thus validate?on the site. I've always prided my site as a place where child abuse survivors will be heard. A week or longer is way too long for my visitors to wait.

I must now balance my time between the needs of my visitors, the maintenance responsibilities of my site, my desire to publish books that help survivors heal from the effects of child abuse, and the needs of my own personal life. The first two have grown exponentially over the past 2 years; and that is where I must make the most difficult choice of all.

I can no longer keep up with the submissions in queue and also continue to comment individually on each of them. Certainly not to the degree that I have in the past. Nor am I in a position to keep trying; not if I want to publish books and also have a quality of life to enjoy with my husband. Therefore, I can no longer leave in-depth comments for contributors to my site.

I sincerely hope you understand that this is a necessity for me, and is in no way meant to discredit or minimize what each of you have lived through and the pain you are in right now. In the absence of my comments, I encourage you to read and re-read stories from other visitors, and then also read the comments I've left for them in the past. You'll find that many of those comments are every bit as valid for you as they are for the person I (and others) wrote them to.

I thank you all for your tremendous support, and I do hope that my decision does not dissuade you from leaving your own validating and encouraging comments to the visitors who continue to send their stories to me for posting.

One last thing before I sign off...

I have recently opened a Public Profile page on Facebook, where visitors can follow my book-writing progress, read my musings, concerns, and even join in discussions. You can follow me at Healing from Child Abuse. I look forward to "seeing" you there.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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Jun 25, 2009
good on you, go for it, Saddened though I am at your moving on in your life
by: maurice

You're doing the right thing Darlene, I am so happy for you, your books will benefit people, but I am saddened you will not be leaving your most helpful and loving comments to your many visitors. This site is a GOD SEND in our modern age of communication and technology. I am sure you are fully aware of that. Since arriving on your site the valued support and assistance with your professional and personal advice has enormous effect on each one of us. WHY? simply because you journeyed through it all yourself and came out LOVING your beautiful self realizing there is life after abuse. That to me is your real sincere benefit to each one of us. I for one have received a greater appreciation of myself from reading your comments to me and that to your many other visitors. Knowing your stewardship of your site was totally professional human loving and caring in total respect of each individual visitor was most re-assuring for me. My sincere and heartfelt thanks to you. I will continue to journey with you and your many visitors as I feel I've become part of a very special Family' I have tried my best to get your book here in Ireland but failed. I have a friend in Canada who I will be asking did she hear of you and your greatness and your book. Darlene, this is the day the Lord has made let us rejoice and be Glad in it psalm 118. Live well, laugh alot, love much Hi you too can say in the mirror I can accomplish anything I want for me in my life. The mirror image I encourage alot as I know from my journeying with many people in my life Self Esteem, self worth even in normal growing us is lacking in many, more so in us who have been abused. My mirror image has given me greater inner beauty about myself and I shower it on myself in the mirror. God be with you Darlene. Thank YOU.

Jun 25, 2009
Maurice:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Once again, Maurice, I am deeply touched by your loving, caring words of support. I truly am so blessed to have people like you in my life, even though you are in a distant place and we know each other only through our computer screens. Just remember, I'm not going away. I'm still here, "stewarding" my site, ensuring those who share their stories continue to have a safe place to disclose and to be heard. Besides, you can follow me on my Facebook page at Healing from Child Abuse. I've even started a discussion there about the title of my book. I invite you to drop by and offer your thoughts. The more of us involved with and committed to healing from child abuse, the more likely healing will begin all over the world.

You mentioned not being able to get my book in Ireland. That's because I self-published my memoir, therefore it is not available through traditional book stores. There are a couple ways to purchase the book. One, as an e-book, which is an online version; meaning you would read it on your computer monitor. You could print any pages in order to read it on hardcopy. The e-book is the most reasonably priced alternative at $11.99CDN. It is also the fastest alternative, as it takes only minutes to download once the process is taken care of through PayPal. If you don't have a PayPal account, it doesn't take long to open one. Or if you prefer, you can pay directly through a credit card. You can also order the soft-cover version through Trafford.com at the following URL: http://books.trafford.com/03-2307, but this is THE most expensive route to go, as Trafford takes a great deal of money for each book printed, and then there's the added cost of shipping and handling. This alternative will run approximately $35 - $37 Canadian dollars. I felt so strongly that this was too expensive that I eventually decided on making it an e-book so that it was more affordable for people. But either alternative requires that you use a credit card, Maurice. Send me a private comment if this latter bit is an issue. Perhaps we can work something out. I do thank you for showing interest in obtaining and reading my memoir.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jun 27, 2009
Thank You. Good to know you're not gone away
by: maurice

Darlene, It has not been the same reading the sincere and real stories having in the back of my mind that your loving caring encouraging words are taking a background. It is good to know your site is still available to all of us who were blessed to find it. It has been a therapeutic journey with you and your visitors since I visited it. My sincere thank you. I will journey along with you and your visitors sharing my love and care with all. I was disappointed to hear your book is not on shelves. A big disadvantage to and I am sure your many visitors who don't have credit cards, or the ways to follows it as you suggest. Your new publication I sincerely and genuinely hope will be available on shelves. I have followed your reading of your book. That is why you are so high in my admiration of you and your stewarding of your site. You seemed to have journeyed through horrific abuse and took the neccessary step by step healing process which is important for all of us to do. Your helpful comments were a valued understanding knowing you had journeyed through abuse. The real you as well as the trained and professional you was a gift to me and to all your visitors. Re-reading and making the effort to to return to the many wonderful and helpful comments I'll have to work at. It is great to be part of a section of humanity world wide (family) being supported,loved and healing from open sharing of there abuse. The real blessing for me was that you respected each beautiful human being with the time you gave them but also that you knew the sincere telling by each one of their abuse and let it on your site. That is so uplifting to know. Your not going away that is all I want to know and hear. Hurry up with that book and come back to what you really are genuinely and sincerely as good at if not better at than being a writer of books. Thank you for sharing your own real story of abuse. Darlene, that smiling countenance of yours gives me and I've no doubt all your visitors a welcoming uplift each time I receive and read a story. You and that good and wonderful husband of yours take loads of loving space time by the lakes.

Jun 27, 2009
Maurice's Input to this child abuse site
by: JWC

Maurice, I often visit child abuse effects to see what Darlene has offered to her visitors. One thing I have noticed is that you too are offering many understanding and encouraging words to the people who visit child abuse effects.
You should not under estimate what a positive effect you are having in helping people over come the effects of child abuse.
I am sure Darlene will continue to help people heal and overcome the effects of child abuse. In fact if I read her post and facebook page correctly that is what her next book is about. Can you imagine how valuable a book that will be. Her sharing all that she has learned and enabling others along the same path she has taken.
Keep up the good work, Maurice.

From Darlene: JWC, I can't thank you enough for your comments. You're insight is right on; my next book is intended to help child abuse survivors along their own path toward healing and recovery. And it's heartwarming to know that others see Maurice as I see him: such a valuable asset to those who visit here. Thank you to BOTH of you.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Jun 30, 2009
affirming words to my contibutions and comments
by: maurice

Nice one JWC your words coupled with Darlene affirms me wholeheartedly. Great boost to my sensitivity to people who were abused. I am naturally a very caring concerned Male to all kinds of human needs. I have journeyed most of my life with those on the margins and I emphatise with them greatly especially from what they have shared with me. University of life, learning from those whose life has been effected by whatever is a human experience that I cannot ignore. My sharing in my comments is real, human, and I hope helpful naturally as it comes direct from my heart

Jul 01, 2009
Thank you, Darlene and Good Luck on a most worthwhile endeavor
by: Tiffany

Darlene, I am so happy that you have made this decision. Your words of encouragement, support, and understanding have been so healing for me and for many other visitors to this site. This is the first place where I felt I could openly and honestly (b/c of the total anonymity) share my story with others - especially with others who have been through similar experiences. I have no doubt that your book will be of tremendous value to survivors of child abuse, as your comments on this site have been. I wish you all the best of luck on the book!

Maurice, your words of encouragement have given me a lot of strength and hope and I think they have for many others as well. It is so special that you take the time to comment. I myself have read many of the stories here and have wanted to comment but don't always have the time. I cannot imagine the horrors that so many people on this site have gone through. It is truly an inspiration to read of the courage and strength of the survivors here despite what they have been through. My heart goes out to all of you who have posted; I am thinking of you and sincerely wishing you all the best. Darlene, thanks again for all the work you have done for survivors.

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