Marlyn, you are NOT dirty, you are NOT bad. What happened to you wasn't your fault. Your ABUSER was the one who was dirty. Your ABUSER was the one who was bad. You are good. You are worthy. You are special. Don't let the messages your abuser left you with continue to take over your life. Your abuser isn't worthy of one more minute of your precious time on this earth.
If you haven't already, I strongly urge you to seek out some form of counseling, Marlyn. You need help to sort through your feelings. You really can turn this around and take back your power. You and your relationship are worth it.
I know what you're saying about the life sentence. In my situation, there is no way for my abuser to be "punished" either. Recently I started feeling angry that my husband and children have also been given a life sentence--punished for loving me and because of my history, they are denied the full loving in return that they deserve. It's just horrible.
I'm now in the process of creating a "loving bubble" around me and my family that my past can not push into. I am being born right now into this bubble, new and beautiful and wonderful. It's too hard to ignore all the parts that feel hurt and dirty and bad, so instead of wishing they'll go away, I'm just going to start new and let the new beautiful things blossom and grow.
Do you think that would work for you? I hope so.
Jan 02, 2008
Were you sexually, phiysically, or emotionally abused? by: Niche'
Hello, Maryln my name is Niche i live in ohio. I was molested and raped, the more I talk about it I trick myself into getting over it. But then It comes back to hunt me, I did not get the two people who did this to me but now I wish I did. I have nightmares like it was yesterday, I am very controlling with my kids father, he hates me so bad that I wish at times he would just move on, but he wont, because he see's sickness in my eyes.
Jun 07, 2009
Keeping hope alive in still a non listening society of children who are abused by: maurice
It is the most irritating and annoying reality that Children are still not listened to. That family members who report their child is being abused are not listened to. Keeping hope alive we must that this will change in all societies of the World in the remotest rural setting to the larger towns and cities. When the real loving caring concerned parents and extended family members report are not listened to it means for me that there are too many rules and regulations but not enough heart in the people who are professionally trained and making loads of money out of not doing their Job. Let our voices be heard for the abused. Society as a whole seem apathetic to the misfortunes they befall people in their lives generally and sadly put the innocent children.teenagers/adolescent in that category as well. Only those of us who were abused are the voices and all who love us are the voices of the still innocent who are being abused even as I write this comment. Let us not give up HOPE. NO CHILD BORN IS BIRTHED TO BE ABUSED.
Nov 19, 2009
Abuse is with us as I share with you. by: maurice
2009 in Ireland in the most recent survey done on hostels and supposely safe place s for our young especially those coming into our country as migrants legally or elegally especially the beautiful girls been brought in for trafficking into the sex world. Living in totally unsafe places. all ages sharing crowded rooms. Just the tip of the iceberg. Authorities have still an awful lot to answer for. Great we have Darlene's site to share the problems of abuse near us. Yes, we a victims, but we have won over our abuse we are the victors. We need to fight still for those who are still suffering from abuse in our midst. Let us stay safe, Let us care for the one's we love and who love us in our life. May we have the courage to speak our against those who still abuse. In our speaking up and out we will get justice. Let us never give up HOPE.
