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Dec 30, 2014
Sarah:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You said it gets worse when one is quiet, so I gather that's what's happened in your situation. If you haven't already told, it's never too late. The longer you keep the secret, the more it will try to surface, but it will cause havoc in every aspect of your life in the process. Even if you're not being abused by this person anymore, telling can help you to start walking a healing path. But you must tell someone who is trustworthy. The fear of not being believed is the #1 reason victims of sexual abuse don't tell, and with very good reason. Children are often not believed, in part, because the adults in their life can't wrap their heads around not having seen the signs, plus they can't fathom how their choices could have put a child in harms way.

You didn't say where you're from. It you're in the USA or Canada and you need someone to talk to about what you lived through and the effects it has caused, contact Child Help at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453). They are staffed 24/7 with professionally trained counsellors who will listen to you. They are not a reporting agency, although they can help you through the process of reporting if you decide to disclose the abuse. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.childhelp.org/

Know that you are not responsible for what he did to you. You are not to blame for the choices HE made. You were vulnerable. And he took advantage of that vulnerability. He may even have chosen your mother so that he could have access to you, difficult as that is to comprehend. That's how pedophiles operate; they find target-rich environments. I tell you this, because it's important to understand how mothers can be sought out. They prey on women with small children so they can have access. Which is all the more reason to tell.

You didn't deserve to be abused. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, Sarah. I send you love, light and healing energy.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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