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May 02, 2010
To concerned parent...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

The fact that you're asking about this is admirable. It shows that you really do want what is best for your daughter. But I suspended my Ask Darlene section on this website well over a year ago because I do not have the time necessary to answer questions for my visitors, which is why I've removed the questions you've posed. I will however point you toward my Abuse and Discipline page. And for the sake of both you and your daughter, I will also suggest you do seek out some form of counselling in order to help you deal with the repercussions of coming from an abusive environment.

[To my other visitors:] Please don't use this comment thread to speak to the perceived virtues of spanking, because such comments will be deleted. I do not consider physical punishment as appropriate discipline EVER, nor will I allow any page on my site to become a place for others to support it; I have a well documented history on this issue. If that's your intent, I suggest you go elsewhere. Thank you for your understanding.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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May 02, 2010
I was disciplined too
by: Scott 1

My advice to you is to read my story. The comments are insightful and eye opening. You are not alone. How much was too much??

I wish the people punishing us as children had done a little reading themselves..

Teachers can read cant they?

May 03, 2010
I won't rear my child they way may parents I was.
by: maurice

You'll be fine, now that you have posed the question and you are showing concern about it and the rearing of your child: Darlene has given you a woman's heart comment with her professional training on dicipline and abuse: She knows at first hand that Spanking/beating a child is total abuse: Hi, she is a winner over her abuse after so called discipline from her parents: Great you wrote your feelings and concern on her site: She has given you a comment that will hopefully help you To LOVE your daughter even when she is like you when she gets mad: You are a good MOM, you want always to do what is right for your brilliant gifted child: You will because you know what is best for you both in LOVE. You are intelligent, bright eyed and clear in your thinking re helping your child to live her life to the full, have a healthy mind in a healthy body whil having and making good friends in her life: Darlene has empowered you by her loving words: Thank you again Darlene for re-assuring me that my abuse was wrong in the form of discipline used on me: It was abuse, I know that now, No child should be spanked or beaten on the bottom or physiaclally hit: IT IS OUT AND OUT ABUSE of their innocence, vunerability, dignity: Thankfully the majority of parents, mom's Dad's guardian's love and cherish children as is their right.

May 10, 2010
Child Abuse
by: Jaden

I think that you are being a very nice parent to your kid. I agree people should not beat on there kids. All parents are different though.

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