Comments for When a Parent Targets One For Child Abuse Part 1

Click here to add your own comments

Jul 05, 2009
Your siblings believe the lies...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Willow, first I must tell you that I am no longer in a position to answer questions for my visitors. The issue you bring up about siblings is one that I will be dealing with in the book I'm currently writing. But that won't answer the questions that plague you today. I will just this once give you a very brief reply: You've done a good job of theorizing. The fact is, your siblings were brainwashed from a very young age and they never themselves experienced the abuse to understand that you suffered from it. They believed the lies they were told about you, and then adopted them. They've carried those lies into their adulthood. Their denial of what happened to you is common. It's a mistake to supposed or presume that just because someone becomes an adult s/he suddenly adopts "adult" ideas. We carry a lot of "stuff" from childhood.

Willow, you are tearing yourself apart with the questions you want your siblings to answer. And you keep going back to them for the answers; answers that they will never be in a position to give you. They see you as a "black sheep" in part because you aren't jovial and fun-loving like them. They don't consider what you lived through. But you KNOW what you lived through. So now you must find the answers to your questions yourself. The best way I can suggest is through counselling. You didn't deserve to be abused. You most certainly deserve help for the fact that you were.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

A Video Reading by Darlene Barriere
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Click here to add your own comments

Join in and write your own page! It's easy to do. How? Simply click here to return to Child Abuse Article - Write one.

Return to When a Parent Targets One For Child Abuse Part 1

Disclaimer: To the best of my knowledge the child abuse
stories on this site are true. While I cannot guarantee
this, I do try to balance the need for the submitter to be
heard and validated with the needs of my visitors.



E-book: Victim To Victory

From Victim to Victory
a memoir

How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life

Read more...

Most Recent

  1. I Self Medicate

    Jun 26, 17 04:40 PM

    When I was 3 we left Illinois for Arizona. The day we left my grandfather had a heart attack and died. I have one uncomfortable grainy memory of him. I

    Read More

  2. Ongoing Abuse

    Jun 06, 17 03:03 PM

    I'm 15/16. I am still getting abused physically, mentally and verbally by my family especially my mother. I don't understand what to do to overcome this.

    Read More

  3. Still Get Flashbacks

    Jun 06, 17 02:46 PM

    When I was seven and a half my father started to abuse me. It took the form of kissing and oral sex. Later on he introduced me to five elderly aged men

    Read More

E-book: Victim To Victory

From Victim to Victory
a memoir

How I got over the devastating effects of child abuse and moved on with my life

Read more...