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Sep 30, 2014
Andrew:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

There comes a time when distance from your abuser, even well into adulthood, becomes necessary. Just because you "received Christ" it doesn't mean you must continue to accept being abused by someone. The only person you control is you. You have no way to control someone else. Your brother continues to be abusive, so the best way to handle that is to remove yourself from his presence. And that may mean for a very long time. You've tried your best, but you cannot control the way he responds. The more you go back, the more you put yourself at risk. Keep love in your heart, but that never means opening yourself up to further abuse. You both have free will. Your brother has used his free will in wholly inappropriate ways. Use yours to keep yourself safe. Coming from a place of love doesn't mean putting yourself in harms way. In fact, self love dictates you don't. Look to ways to heal yourself, Andrew. Your brother must find his own path. Reconciliation with him may not be possible. Certainly, it is not possible as long as he continues to be abusive. Indeed, reconciliation at this point must be with your Self, your inner Self. That's where you will find Who You Really Are. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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