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May 21, 2015
Sara:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

"This is who I have become" and "This is my story", the last one I accept. But I don't accept the first. You are not the story. Nor are you what has happened to you.

I know it's so hard to believe that you are so much more than what you think you are. Especially when most of the people in your life, the people who are put in charge of your safety and well-being are the ones doing so much harm. I've been there, Sara. And I too had similar feelings and emotions to what you're now experiencing. It wasn't until I began to recognize my own personal value that things really began to turn around for me.

The messages that you're getting, both directly and indirectly, are lies. So if you take what those messages are and adopt them as your own, you are accepting what simply isn't true.

I had to learn to pull myself up. To give myself all that I needed. And not to rely on the words or actions of others to build my self-esteem back up. That doesn't mean that I didn't get help along the way. Mostly in the way of encouragement. So allow me to be your encouragement. Allow me to tell you that you are so much more than you think you are. That you MATTER. That you are NEEDED in this world. That you BELONG in this world. Even when it doesn't feel like it.

Explore healthy things that interest you. Things that you're good at. Maybe it's sports. Maybe it's something more creative. But whatever it is, nurture it. In this way you can begin to re-build your self-esteem. Your past doesn't have to define you. What defines you is your character, your integrity, and what you decide your purpose will be. Always remember that.

Three strikes you're out is applicable to baseball and criminals in some places. It does not have a place in your life.

I send you love, light and healing energy, Sara. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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