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Dec 15, 2014
Ryan:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I can feel your sense of betrayal by both your sister and mother. I can also feel the abandonment by your mother. When we're young and vulnerable, it's so very difficult to find the courage to move forward, especially when we're being beaten down at every turn. But that courage resides in you. In spades. Understand this, Ryan, the way your sister and mother treat you has nothing whatsoever to do with you. Much as that doesn't feel to be the case, it's true. What they do and say to you says more about THEM than it will ever say about you. Don't fall into the trap of believing you're not worthy, because you ARE worthy. Just because they choose a twisted way of treating you doesn't mean you aren't worthy of dignity and respect. You ARE. They have no credibility. But you do, Ryan. You do.

Find all the wonderful qualities about yourself. Don't focus on the negative, focus only on the positive. Reaffirm those qualities by finding examples of how they are true.

The watches are symbolic. Yes, your father wanted you to have them. And you DO have them...in your heart. And your father continues to watch over you. Always. You don't have to possess them physically to know that they are yours. Or to know that your father will always be with you.

Connect with Who You Really Are. Who You Really Are has nothing to do with the way these two women are mistreating you.

It's clear to me that you are a compassionate and loving person. Don't ever allow yourself to lose those qualities. They are what make you strong. So very strong. And you ARE strong. Believe that because it's true. I send you love, light and healing energy, Ryan. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Dec 15, 2014
your abuse is WRONG and HORRIBLE
by: nobody at all

as Darlene said, I can FEEL how u felt, from reading your post - something about the truth ringing through from the computer screen, like something ALIVE.

this kind of ganging up on u type abuse strikes me as just horrible. as bad as any abuse, of any kind, I can think of. my husband experienced this a lot in childhood, too. u have my sincere empathy.

as Darlene said, also, Who U Really Are has NOTHING 2 do w/your mother and sister. your spirit, which everyone has their own unique one of, is yours and yours alone, and, in my belief, comes from the Divine, and will be yours and yours alone for the rest of your life. I wish u could get away from your abusers now, but just hold onto the knowledge that there are good people out there whom u will meet as life goes on. u have a long life ahead of u, and it belongs to YOU 2 use, 1st of all, 2 heal, with your own (if possible) help, and that of others. then u can have an adulthood so good u wouldn't believe it! your mother and sister are just horrible blots that happen 2b happening this early in your life. it's very hard 4 a child to be mistreated like this, harder than for an adult. try, if u can, 2 just "get by" for now, knowing they are WRONG and that they represent the worst in humankind. u'll meet both good and bad people in the future, so try 2 avoid the bad ones as much as possible, and stick w/the good ones. people whom u feel good around, just the opposite of your current abusive ignorant mother and sister. yuck! u'll have more freedom 2 choose whom u want 2 spend time with when ur older. it'll be better, but first u will need 2 heal from your abuse, maybe w/the help of a professional, who will help u throw off the devastating effects u've endured so far.

I hope u have a good Christmas and new year!

Dec 16, 2014
Such uncontrolled sadism
by: Anonymous

Ryan, I can't believe that your mother would abandon you. I hope you could really get the watches that your late dad decided to let you have. I hope you're also out of that house now. Oh, and beating the crap out of you over the broken watches is a very cowardly thing to do. Please look into reporting them.

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