Should I continue to work or stay home with my baby?

by Sana

I am a mother of an 18-month-old boy, and I am myself 22. I leave my son behind to go to a 9 to 4 job. My son is a very happy baby. He never complains about it, but somewhere in my mind I am feeling very guilty that I am leaving him behind. There is my mother-in-law and sister-in-law to look after him. Though I would love to leave the job for him, but my husband is very much strict on the point of me not leaving the job. What should I do? Should I listen to my instinct or my husband? I feel that my son needs me. I miss him like hell. Please help me out.

Reply from Darlene: Sana, you are experiencing what almost every working mother experiences: "guilt" at leaving your child behind. The vast majority of women who work outside the home do so because of financial need; perhaps this is so in your case, perhaps not. But regardless, your question goes much deeper than a simple yes or no.

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