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Jun 13, 2014
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by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

When we're more afraid of the unknown than we are of what we are currently living in, we make the choice to stay. And make no mistake...staying is a choice one makes. When we allow what seems to be the good to overshadow all the bad, especially when the bad is unbearable, we will never make a change. For any change to take place, first change happens within us. As long as you continue to see things as you do, you will continue to live as you do. But when you begin to see things from a different perspective, then everything will change. You're looking for a third option, one that gives you the best of all situations without having to change anything. But that isn't possible. By the very definition, you must change something for their to be change. So now you must decide. Change what is happening by choosing something else. Or change what you think is happening to bring about some other form of change. The answer lies within you. But you must first overcome the fear of the unknown. And also recognize that you cannot change anyone but yourself. No matter how much they need changing. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Jun 13, 2014
Don't be afraid; you don't have to keep living like this
by: Anonymous

Your husband is deeply troubled and so is his family (and yours, too)...and if your marriage isn't working out, then sometimes it's best to leave because if you choose to stay, then it probably won't change. Trust me, as much as he needs help, he's not going to change and you can't change him unless he himself wants to change. Plus, he's very much like a little kid trapped in a grown man's body because he could be stuck in his own childhood. You don't necessarily have to throw him into jail, though; you can just get him some help instead, so TELL, TELL, TELL!!!

Jun 15, 2014
passenger on the Titanic
by: john g of mass

I feel sorry for you because all of the people in your life you talk about DO NOT LOVE YOU AT ALL.............Everything you talk about is a negative for you and all the people you mention want you on their terms, what about what you want or whats good for you. I published my story on this web site and am 81 years of age now. I lived a very abusive and negative childhood but left after high school and never went back. I said good by to my mother and didn't see her until she died, some 22 years later. I have nothing to do with my brothers and its now been some 65 years and I don't miss them at all. Its a very long story but the important aspect I want to leave with you is you only exist now and will until you leave what you describe in your story because your simply existing and are every ones punching bag and that's no life. My father was my enemy from day one and if the police wouldn't bring me back I would have run away from my so called home when I was around 6 years of age or so with only the cloths on my back. As I see it you will be writing the same story 20 years from now unless you can get away and learn to live your life.............
Good luck in what ever you do.

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