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Jul 19, 2011
Tabitha:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What this boy did to you is not considered child abuse under the circumstances; it was sexual assault. There are some who will try to blame you for what this boy did because you snuck out of the house at midnight. Don't ever believe them. While it was wrong for you to sneak out and meet someone, it will never make what he did to you your fault. I'm glad you know that, but I feel compelled to say it here because others might make the mistake in judgment; I won't allow that. What's important is that you get help for what happened to you. It was traumatic, and it has left you with repercussions; repercussions that may well grow in severity as you go through the various ages and stages of your life. Trust will be, if it isn't already, a major factor, especially trust of males. You didn't disclose what country you're in, so all I can offer is a suggestion that you contact one of the hotlines listed on my stories page, depending on where you live, in order to talk to someone confidentially. At the very least, the counsellors at the hotline should be able to point you to a resource that can offer help. You didn't deserve to be sexually assaulted, Tabitha. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Jul 20, 2011
be brave: Be Strong: Love your beautiful Self
by: maurice

Tabby: it went with your natural insticts and sneaked out ( I am sure you are now aware it would have been better if you did not) Don't blame yourself: I did nothing wrong: He was the one I trusted, yet he forced himself on me being the stronger of the two: All the blame is on him Tabby: You are a very intelligent young thinking adult: You will read and understand Darlene's words to you from a womans heart: She truly affirms you: gives you empowering words to help you get on with living your life to the full: I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH
IT: Tabby please be safe: stay safe: value and respect your beautiful and your equally beautiful body: be gentle and kind on yourself and it: my new motto: I WILL I CAN I MUST: Now get out and about with your friends, fellow students taking part in TEAM sports ( stress team) because it will give you a whole new lease of life and broaden your horizons: You;ll feel the benefit of it in no time. This in turn will you young Tabby have a healthy mind in a healthy body: That's what you want is'nt it?? my motto: good on you Tabby: Hi also take Darlene's words into your heart as well as your head: some form of counselling/therapy will make you feel good and put what that so called friends did to you in perspective: I am not to blame: I'll try and never sneak out again: Take your time to trust the boy-friends. don't rush in be in charge of your own destiny: If you don't have a friend or two ( which I encourage you to have in your own age and gender) you will make real and true friends among your team mates: value and respect yourself and your body: Hug and cuddle real love into it: think positive thoughts about yourself in front of the mirror I like myself: I like every part of me in stead I don't etc (negative) make yourself strong in mind and in body: Good Tabby: you'll know aht is best for you because that is what Darlene and I with all who read your story here on HER safe haven site want for you: Stay in education: Warn off your friends about this boy just in case he is still getting away with what he tried and did to you; He invaded your privacy and your dignity by forcing himself on you: I was NOT to blame: a little naughty maybe for sneaking out: It is past so live your NOW time to the full learning from what came naturally to you in sneaking out: MY MOTTO TABBY I will etc: I'M SPECIAL AND I AM GOING TO LOVE ME always believe in yourself: motto tabby

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