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Oct 15, 2011
Shanelle:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Most definitely, your pasts will be a contributing factor to the violence in your relationship, as well as both your ability to make healthy choices for yourselves. But two things: One, your pasts don't predispose you to relationship violence. And two, the reasons why right now are not as critical as realizing that you are in a highly volatile and dangerous relationship. He WILL escalate further, the violence WILL increase in intensity, he WILL seriously harm you or worse. You must get out. You've been isolated from your friends, which is a huge red flag. Reconnect with your friends because they are your support system. Reach out in the community for resources that are available to you. You're already very familiar with the women's shelter program, so reach out for the services they offer. Don't try to do this alone. Take a lesson from your mother's choices, and make sure you don't make those same choices and mistakes: Don't go back to him. And for goodness sake, stop hitting him. Stop playing into the violence. It will get you seriously injured, or even killed.

You didn't say where you live, so I can't offer a hotline to connect to, but a women's shelter can help with that. Please contact them. Your life depends on it, and you're too worthy to continue to put up with being mistreated and violated. You're worthy of dignity and respect and love. Start by treating your Self with that dignity, respect and love by getting the help you so desperately need. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

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