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Jan 11, 2009
My condolences on the loss of your father...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Sara, you've shown a great deal of strength by first understanding what was happening to you with this person, and second, how NOT moving forward could severely impact your daughter. That's what being a good mother is all about; protecting your child.

It's very common for teenage girls who have lost their fathers, either in death like you did, or in betrayal and abandonment like so many who have written their stories on this site, to look toward the first male who shows them the least bit of affection. Without a healthy fatherly bond, an adolescent girl may find herself choosing a male based on the fact that he pays attention to her. A teenager's brain isn't done developing until well into their twenties; therefore, a teen is unable to predict the consequences of their choices. Those are the physiological facts; and it's why it's so important that parents help their adolescent children make healthy choices. You, sadly, learned in such a difficult way.

You have a very good understanding of the cycle of violence, so I gather you have gotten some help along the way. I hope so; a support system is critical under your circumstances. Both you and your daughter deserve support, encouragement, and of course, to be happy.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me, and for the all-important message that you attached to it. I wish you and your daughter the very best.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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May 20, 2009
my immediate re-action good on you for the love of yourself and your beautiful daughter
by: maurice

Oh Sara, you gave me belief and hope in people who find themselves in such abuse relationships. You were brave, you were strong, you were true to your self to have the courage of your convictions that this man was not a loving human being but a control and violent abusive male. Good on you Sara you make me so happy, happy for you and your love child. Darlene's words of love to you are heartfelt one's. she sure knows the courage it took you to make that decision. Take her words to your heart and begin a new life for yourself and that beautiful child of yours. A mother loves her child and now that you have realized you do begin to LOVE your BEautiful self. Be true to yourself. Have loving caring honest and true people around you who will hug and love you for who you really proved you are. strong and brave with great courage. thank you for making me happy for you

Jun 16, 2009
Thanks for the inspiration
by: Sister Elena

Maurice's words are so right. You are brave and courageous and a role model for others. You got out, you recognised the pattern and wanted better for your daughter and yourself.
Thank you for making the rest of us proud of you, for showing qualities of bravery and courage, persistence and determination. Thank you for making a success of yourself and your life.
Your story is inspiring to the rest of us and an example for us. Thank you for being an example for others. There is Power and Hope in your story. If you can do it, then so can we!
Thank you for sharing, encouraging and helping us.
More Power to you and your daughter Dear Sister!!!

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