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Apr 28, 2011
To Name Undisclosed:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Get out, get out now! You are in a violent relationship, one that will grow in intensity and escalate. You are in danger in this relationship. He is a typical abuser, blaming you for HIS violence. That won't change. You can't take responsibility for what he has done to you; that's all on him because he chose to be violent and abuse you. None of this is your fault. Always remember that. Staying with him means that he will always find fault with you, because he's got serious problems, problems that you can't help him with. Lean on your family and friends for support. Tell them you've broken up with this guy and why. Do not wait for another episode or for him to tell you what to say. The longer you stay in this relationship the more dangerous it will become. Speak with a school counsellor and tell the counsellor that you've broken up with him and why, and then find out what resources are available to you, at the school and in the community. I will also say that you yourself have to stop being violent. While his violence is not your fault; you must take responsibility for your violence. Respect for others is key, but respect for yourself is also paramount. If you live in the USA, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. Visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.ndvh.org/

You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. Call the number above. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Apr 29, 2011
Get Help: NOW: Get your life together: Become strong:
by: maurice

Hi don't be fooled by him: You are one very intelligent girl: You know deep down it is not love between you: not even a relationship if you don't value and respect each other: Grow up quicker than him: Darlene has given you the soundest advice you'll ever want but you must act now and be in charge of your own life and destiny: Just leave him now: Don't listen to his insincere talk: I'm sorry and all that, yes until the next and the next time, he won't change: Get a life and have real friends around you who value and respect you: ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: Talk to your closest of friend (s) your own age and gender allow them to talk sense into your head about him: But end the relationship NOW NOW: Darlene knows and wants what is the best for you if you act on her advice that is exactly what you want for yourself: The best: Have a healthy mind in a healthy body: get out there being active and alive with your school mates and friends taking part in Team Sports and sporting and cultural activities and I guarantee you'll make real natural friends for life with loads of aquaintances to make you feel good when you meet: Your one smart young woman: you know why you wrote on Darlene's site: A cry for help and loving encourageing advice from some one very professional and knowledgeable who cares about the safety of everyone who visits her site: Live well: Laugh alot: Love much: be gentle and kind to yourself, be safe, stay safe:

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