Relationship Violence Story From Name Undisclosed2

by Name Undisclosed
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Had me wrapped around his finger: 
I was introduced to James on a family camping trip of my friend Emily's. He was her cousins best friend, and had been apart of her family forever. We hit it off right away, the whole weekend was filled with flirting and fun. After I left me and him stayed in contact for months. Always talking and texting. He was my exact opposite, yet we were similar at the same time. After a few months of communication he moved away to AZ for awhile. A few months later he surprised me by showing up at a shopping trip me and my friends went on (they had all planned it). He had moved back, and I thought it was going to be the best thing that ever happened to me.

The first month or so of us dating was great. We hung out all the time on weekends and it was fun. But he starting getting sexually physical with me right away. I didn't like it, but I always had a problem with telling people no. I usually just said nothing. I never felt like I had much of a say.

Around the second month of us dating, he started getting mean. He'd ignore me. No matter what my opinion was on something, it had to be wrong. He'd talk down to me, and constantly criticize me. Nothing I ever did was right. If I ever texted him he called it being "clingy", but if he texted/called me I should be grateful. If I ever stated my point of veiw, he would crush it and say it was stupid. No matter what we did it was always what he wanted to do. If i didnt have sex with him he would drop me off way earlier then I had to be. If i liked something, he trash talked it no matter what it was. He constantly made me feel like I couldnt do anything right. "I have you wrapped around my finger. I can make you do anything I want." He once told me over the phone. The one comment scared me so bad I wanted to run and hide. He knew ways to make me feel guilty about what I would or wouldn't do. Made me feel like s**t all the time. He had me feeling like I wasn't good enough, and to make him happy I'd have to sleep with him.

His constant attacks at who I am was starting to crush my feeling of self worth. I got in the state of mind of not being good enough. He was manipulating me, and played off my weakness's to his advantage.

One day I couldn't take it anymore. The empty feeling I always felt never went away. I was tired of feeling like s**t and finally broke it off.

Looking back on it, I saw the warning signs. Signs I clearly ignored. DON'T IGNORE YOUR GUT FEELING!

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coachNote from Darlene: I welcome you to follow me on my Facebook page at Healing from Child Abuse. When you get there, don't forget to click onto the Become a Fan link. I hope to hear from you there!

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