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May 21, 2010
Katie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

This boy has serious problems that will get worse. Jealousy is not a sign of love; it's a sign of insecurity. And the deeper the jealousy, the deeper the insecurity. What you're describing is NOT love. Whether he needs counselling is not the issue here. What's at issue is that he's controlling you and he wants to isolate you from your friends and support system. That's what abusers do, Katie. What you described is so typical of abusers. You must get out of this relationship, for good. Talk to your family about what is really going on so that they can help you and provide the support you need; that's what they're there for. Be honest with yourself and with your friends; your friends are another support system that can help keep you from being isolated and more at risk for violence. And you ARE at risk for more violence. This boy is NOT who you think he is. You and he together are NOT that perfect couple; you're in an abusive dating relationship that you must get away from. He will escalate the violence if you don't. Contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). They have advocates available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week who can provide crisis intervention, escape planning, information and referrals to victims or anyone calling on their behalf. You can visit their website by copying & pasting the following URL into your browser: http://www.ndvh.org/

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
Darlene Barriere
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May 23, 2010
Hi
by: Anonymous

Well u should not b wit hiM caz he sounds nice on the outside but really all he wants is one thing like alot of guys these days

May 23, 2010
Love is spaecial: Love is respectful of the yourself and the other
by: maurice

Katie, you took time out to write a very honest valuation of your relationship with this ONE boy: Don't be fooled by him: Don't allow him to dictate LOVE to you: Or what it should be all about: He is just one controller of you with heaps of jealosy thrown in: He does not LOVE you: He does not Value you or respect your feelings: He does not allow you to express your understanding of adolecence relationships: He just wants you to believe he is right and you have no say: Now Katie I am reading through the lines and you do not come accross as being a idiot: You are a very articulate and intelligent young Lady: Don't let your life be ruined with your tunnel vision of this User and abuser of your intelligence and you as a person: Move away from him, say no now and again and see how he re-acts: Then you'll know he is not sincere, he is not true, he is a control freak for you to know and let other girls know about him: Until he grows up he will ruin your natural growth while not supportiong you to live your life to the full with your friends and class mates: There is safety in numbers: So have a healthy mind in a healthy body: Join team sports, to be with your like-minded friends and class mates: Stop being fooled by him: You have a life to be lived: You will throw away the best years of your life if you do not Cop On NOW and mix with other boys who will show you real respect and give you a greater sense of what teenage relationships are truly all about: You stay in eduaction: You need your education to get on in life: School will end for both of you then you and he will have to go your separate ways to college or to pursue your dreams as to what you truly want to do with your life: Don't be fooled by HIM: You ain't stupid: ''RIGHT'' stand up for your own principles and feelings: Have to courage to say NO when you know it to be the right thing to say and do: You are SPECIAL: I am SPECIAL: I am young and beautiful and I want to live my LIFE to the full with good friends who value and respect me for my giftednness and tallents: Learn from this false guy in a relationship; Tell him to get a life away from you: Have friends who know you both to help him get his act together, he'll soon learn the hard way when you dump him: Your family and friends will stand by, you'll know what is best for you and they'll support you to be safe and sure: Be true to yourself: your Family: your genuine and true buddies/frinds> Of your bottom now becaome active and alife let your team mates be your courage and support to do the right thing: Leave Him: you'll find the right Guy for you: Not a jealous or control freak: Get my message: More importantly; Read Darlene loving comment to you personally, she knows best, she values you for who you are in the telling of your story to her and her visitors: I want the best for you: Ask yourself Do I want what is best and good for me in my life right NOW????

Aug 11, 2010
OMG Hunny !
by: Shandria Johnson

No Offense But Your Boyfirend Is Physco ! Idk You But Im Sure Your To Good And To Pretty To Be Treated Like That . You Can Easily Go Find Another Guy , No Love Is That Strong oR Worth That Much Pain . Me And My Bestfriend Had A Similar Problem And I Jus Cudnt Deal With Her Or Her Boyfriend , It Wusnt That I Didn't Care About Her But I Told Her Over And Over But She Wouldn't Listen And I Couldn't Sit There And Watch Her Go Through That And There Was Nothing Else I Could Do So I Jus Stopped Talking To Her . And I'm Sure You Love Him But He Is Obssesed Woth You Not In Love ! Please Move On Have Better Judgement Then My Friend Did , Im Begging You !!!

Aug 14, 2010
Be brave: Be strong: Always do what is the best for you
by: Maurice

I've missed out alot these past few weeks as I was moving house and did'nt have the time or energy to visit this great and wonderful site of love truth and genuine family who have grown to know each other through Darlene's vision of the need for such a site: Her empowering words of heartfelt love to each one of us and all who visit her on the site: I missed alot but now I have returned: My comment to you in May I hope was of some encouragement to you: I hope you read and acted on Darlene's words to you. I hope you are and have been strong and brave enough to move away from That unreal man: He is not a good man: So please be brave. stay strong in your own convictions and Always believe in yourself: Do NOW only what is the best for you: Darlene is the one you heed she has given you loving, supporting words to act on: Live well: Laugh alot: Love much beginning with yourself in fron of the Mirror: I can: I will: I must because I am worth it: Think positive: act Positive: Be positive in all you do and say: Your the bestest and believe it because it is true:

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