Relationship Violence Story From Jordan S

by Jordan S
(Ohio, USA)

When I first saw JC, I thought he was so cute and I would try to do anything to get his attention. Eventually, it worked and he started noticing me. At first, it was just flirting and then it led to him coming over to my house, meeting my family, and making out. A relationship didn't start between us until about a week after he came over to my house for the first time. The first few weeks were really good; he was good to me and respected my parents. And then out of nowhere, things started to change. There was some things that I would do with JC that got me in trouble. He gave me two hickies which got me into some serious trouble at home and church. One day he was taking me home from school but we stopped at his house to let his dog out. But we ended up staying for a half hour and before I knew it, I saw my mom's car in his driveway and she was not happy that I was there when his parents were not. I got grounded but she still allowed me to date JC even though I could tell she didn't think he was good for me. That was the turning point in our relationship because after that, JC became very possessive and obsessive with me for example he would get mad if I didn't call him back immediately, if I had any guy friends on my phone or Facebook, and he made me text him at school even tough we went to same school at the time and I got caught and was suspended. Even though he told me he was sorry and swore he would change, he didn't. It got so bad that my mom and step dad forbade me to go back out with him. At first I was upset and I cried my eyes out because I was "in love" with him, but then my step dad told me he loved me and he wanted what was best for me and that was when I started to believe them JC was not good for me and that I needed to break up with him. I broke up with JC that night and he went crazy. He was screaming and crying at me, begging me not to break up with me, but I refused to listen to his pleas. Shortly afterwards, JC moved back to his old school and I have not seen him since he left which was in January 2010. Even though JC never physically hurt, his words and his possessiveness got to me and broke me down to the point where I couldn't think clearly without him in my head. He didn't mess with my body, but he messed with my head.