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May 09, 2011
Haley:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

I'm SO proud of you for breaking up with him and not believing him when he says he's sorry. You can be so proud of YOURSELF for that. His "sorry" is part of the cycle of violence. It follows the violent episode, and is called the "honeymoon phase". In this phase, he can be lovey-dovey, and he might even make promises, but these promises will not be kept. Eventually, there would be another violent episode (as you can attest to). And with each cycle, the violence would intensify and escalate, putting you in more and more danger. What I will say now is tell everyone you know—family, friends, school counsellor, teachers, etc—that you've broken up with him and why. This is important because these people are your support system. Talk to your counsellor about resources that are available to you, on campus and in them community. Then lean on those resources. You didn't deserve to be mistreated and assaulted. You certainly deserve help for the fact that you were. Haley, you had the courage to get out and stay out; I commend and applaud your actions. You're an inspiration for many other victims of relationship violence. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere: author. speaker. survivor. coach.
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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May 10, 2011
ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF:
by: maurice

Empowering words from Darlene: You can be so proud of yourself: Haley her comment is so loving, so empowering: Read again, slowly feel her words where they touch you most in your heart brcause Darlene's words to you are from the depth's of her larger than life woman's heart: Great and good for you that he did not lead you on with his deceptive feelings for you: He showed his true self with his violent streak: Maybe they are there because of abuse or he saw his father do it to his mother: It seemed okay: I am so happy for you now, you get on with living your life to the full: I WILL I CAN I MUST BECAUSE I AM WORTH IT:

May 16, 2011
Congrats.
by: Anonymous

I know exactly what your talking bout. I still havent told anyone bout the stories, but i luckily got away from him and have a new boy. My story is the same as yours. Not the same events, but the same kind of relationship. Only doing it when we were alone and in places that no one would be able to see. Im proud you could leave and i hope something like this will never happena gain.

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