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Feb 25, 2017
To My Two Cents:
by: Darlene - Webmaster

I know you submitted your question/commentary quite some time ago. I've been dealing with eye issues that have made reading online a major problem. My apologies for taking so long to post.

If your question CAN be answered in a non-fictional way, it would break open the challenge of spotting child abuse so it can be dealt with. As you know, the issue is complicated by so many factors, including age of the child/youth, relationship to the abuser, personality and tolerance levels of the victim, plus a host of many other variables. I wish there was a way. But if anyone can provide some insight, what a benefit that would be to survivors as a whole.

I wish you all the best in your writing endeavors, My Two Cents. And thank you for all that you've provided as support and encouragement to survivors on this site. You help make the world a better place.

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Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
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Feb 25, 2017
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by: Ward Schline

You question does have an answer not sure if I have it but I can try.
Above all believe us survivors when we finally say it happened to me.
The aftermath of abuse and signs it happened. An hour in the shower because we don't feel clean anymore. Lashing out in anger, instead of responding to the stimulus at hand we respond to the trigger that makes us feel raped again. Not being able to trust anyone since that is what was stolen from us. The loss of innocence is profound and we can't get it back no matter how hard we try. Hyperviligance we are locked into knowing our surroundings and searching for signs that we are safe. Choosing to sit against the wall to limit how much we have to be aware of. Sexuality at an early age our toys mimick our lives and show our knowledge of intimacy lost.

Aug 17, 2017
full body scanner?
by: My Two Cents

I have no idea why I did not catch this in my original post, especially since I specifically mentioned metal detectors in the schools.

I recently saw an episode of "Border Security" where the customs agents had a suspected drug smuggler stand in a full body scanner. This didn't seem that invasive as the suspect was fully clothed...I think he had to take off his jacket and shoes but every other article remained on. The customs people found the drugs and arrested him.

So.....if there are schools that have metal detectors at the entrances to the schools, could they also have a full body scanner there?

I am thinking that in the event there is physical abuse, a full body scanner will turn up broken bones, sprains, possibly even bruising (depending on how large and deep the bruise is) and this would indicate to the authorities that further investigation is warranted.

I see the problems being privacy and cost. However, if the goal is protection of children....? I think it's worth a try.

The one issue I don't know about is how safe it is for minors to go through a scanner repeatedly. I know every time I go to the dentist, they put a lead vest on me. I guess it depends on the type of scan (X-ray?) and how often it is administered.

So.....does this seem like a solution to finding physical abuse and taking action to address it?

Be Well.

My Two Cents.

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