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Nov 01, 2007
You ARE a real person
by: Darlene Barriere

Nancy, I've said this before; counselling is what I recommend. Keep writing. It will help to bring to the surface what you most need to bring out. When you do go into counselling, share what you've written with your counsellor.

As for your husband's grandfather, his behaviour was inappropriate and is considered "Lewd and Lascivious" if he is flashing himself to a grown up. In Canada, he could be arraigned on a variety of charges for such behaviour. However, if he were to flash himself and speak vulgarly to a child, he could be charged with sexual assault of a minor. I cannot speak to the laws in Ohio.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

Nov 06, 2007
Empty the trunk...
by: Nancy Lee Gray

Nancy, seems like we share more than just a first name. In answer to your question, don't even try to put it back in the trunk. First of all, you can't... we adults lack that special power children have to do whatever necessary to survive and still go on. Second, even if you could put it back, why continue to go through life weighted down by that trunk filled with trash from the past.

Find a good therapist and get to work to really empty the trunk once and for all! If that isn't possible, get The Courage to Heal book and Courage to Heal Workbook, and do the work using whatever support is available to you.

I'm sorry about the emphasis on "work" Nancy, but whereas some find instant healing through faith, most of us seem to have to go through the process. The work is sometimes very hard, but the rewards are great. I know.

Nancy, you deserve to live free and be fully alive...

Take care...be aware,
Nancy Lee



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