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Dec 31, 2014
To Name Undisclosed:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

What your mother thinks about you, what anyone else thinks about you does not have to be the way you think about yourself. As long as you keep telling yourself that you're worthless and unworthy of dignity, respect and love, then you won't have these things in your life.

I get that you were mistreated in the worst ways. Betrayed and abandoned by the very people who were there to protect you and keep you safe. I get that these people were abusive toward you in heinous ways. What is beyond my understanding is why you actually believe them. Actually, it's not really beyond my understanding at all. It's perfectly understandable. But I want you to question all that you've embraced as your own thoughts. These people who treated you so badly...you know what they did was wrong. You know that they themselves were fighting demons of their own. You know all this logically. Yet on an emotional level you choose to believe the lies they've told you either directly or indirectly. Fact is, you get to choose to NOT believe them. You get to choose to tell yourself something completely different. You get to choose the way you want to be treated. And as long as you continue to believe the lie that you aren't worthy, that's what you'll attract in your life.

It was so interesting to read you accomplishments in third person. Rather than read them from a proud first-person account. Choose for yourself. Choose to believe that you ARE worthy, because you ARE worthy. When you see yourself through the eyes of others, you give away your power. So take back your power. Don't allow one more second of this day, or any other, to be one where you tell yourself anything but the fact that you are worthy of dignity and respect. And then start treating your Self with that dignity and respect. It's what you tell your Self that will mean the difference between walking a path of destruction and walking one of healing. You CAN rise up from the ruble. You are so much stronger than what you give your Self credit for. You already survived the worst of it. Now it's time to re-member Who You Really Are. And Who You Really Are is someone worth knowing. Someone who's compassionate. Someone who isn't helpless or hopeless at all. Have faith in your Self. I certainly do!

I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

From Victim to Victory, a memoir
Darlene Barriere
Webmaster: www.child-abuse-effects.com
author. speaker. survivor. coach
From Victim to Victory, a memoir

Jan 07, 2015
You Are Beautiful
by: Christine O

First of all, I'd like you to know that you are beautiful. How do I know this even if I have never met you? Because you are made in the image of God. He made you beautiful. Despite what other people have done to you, this is the truth. I know this truth meant a lot to me, a former victim of abuse myself. For the longest time I thought that because of my past, other people will not truly like or love me. Or, if they did, the true barometer would be if they knew my past. The reality is, the past is the past and I can no longer live in it. It does not define me. God defines me. The church is usually a place where you can find free counseling. I encourage you to find one with either a lady Pastor, or one where when you meet with the pastor, he is willing to keep the door open, or he has windows where other people can see into the room. This may help you be more secure. Some of them will even have their wives be with them if they know the nature of the counseling session.

Jan 08, 2015
Therapy
by: Anonymous

My suggestion to you is that
you be your own best friend.

Read as many books as you can,
and pick up a hobby such as a sport(s).

Some therapists can see patients on a sliding scale, which is you pay less money depending on your income. You can look up what are the resources where you live. I believe that yes you can find the help that you need.

Jan 08, 2015
You Are Very Strong
by: Anonymous

My suggestions are:
To read as many books as you can.
To play sports and pick up a hobby.
To write about your life experiences,
and draw, paint anything.
Even the walls of where you live
to make it look prettyful.
Also to get flowers for the middle of your dining table, and remember to go outside everyday.

Also, remember to eat your
daily vitamins and vegetables.

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