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Feb 24, 2009
The decision is your friend's to make...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Tracey, with all due respect, this isn't about what you want. This situation isn't yours to "want some healing to begin." While I understand what it is you are trying to do, while I appreciate that you are desperately trying to be a good friend, you can't force anyone into anything. Nor should you interfere with whatever these two women do or do not want to do. Healing is a decision that must be made by the person(s) directly. All you can do is be supportive if and when your friend approaches you. If the subject is broached, then a supportive response would be to reiterate her options and encourage her to use the resources available to her. Be a shoulder for her to lean on and a soft place to land. These are the best ways to help your friend; and be a very good friend in the process. The rest must be up to her.

Thank you for sharing your friend's story with my visitors and me.

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Feb 24, 2009
Qyality Care
by: Mrs R.

Hallo Tracey, I can relate where you are comming from, you sound like me a very caring compassionate person. I love to help people, some of my friends chuckle and say go see Mrs R. she solves the problems of the world LOL. But what Darlene says is very true your friend has to make the step for herself, I am a survivor of sexual and physical abuse from as young as a toddler, it took me a long time before I was able to want to help myself. I had all kinds of outside help but inner help had to come from inside and alot of it came from people like you believing in me.
I would like to say that your friend should not worry about the ages (80s) they did not worry about her tender age when they abused her. Any person that commits a crime should pay the price no matter what that persons age.
Never stop caring for your fellow man Tracey, we need more people like you.

Apr 18, 2009
taking care of my own issues
by: Tracey

Just realized there were messages in response to me - yes! I went through an intense learning experience here opening my eyes up to see that this isn't my place to do something about the situation for my friend. Not sure what got into me there.

Thank You for taking the time to respond. I discussed this at length with my own therapist.

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