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Nov 18, 2014
Jasmine:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Looking to help others is a very noble cause, one we all need to embrace. But doing so at the expense of you and your needs is not helping, rather, it's hindering your healing and growth. Being selfless is not walking a healing path; it's taking your Self out of the equation, off the path of healing and instead, on a path of invisibility.

Whatever is going on in your mother's life, she's clearly taking it out on you. You are not responsible for either your mother's vile behaviour or your father's. They have challenges in their own lives that they have chosen to take out on you. That's not on you, that's on them.

You're hurting, Jasmine, and you don't deserve to be mistreated. Follow your own advice. Seek out the help you need. Always remember that you are worthy of dignity and respect and love. Start by treating your Self with that dignity and respect and love. You cannot control how your mother behaves, but you can control your response and how you reach out for what you need. Helping others find and walk their healing path can be very cathartic. Just don't allow your Self and your own personal needs to suffer in the process. YOU matter too! Never forget that. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Nov 26, 2014
Hope is how u see ;)
by: Lyes

Hey honey ur so young with heavy deeds. Ur mentality is on the right track but Darlene is also right - it's a harder task helping urself.For being 13, life in general is difficult to navigate, with trying to balance who ur becoming, to friends and social status ,and where u came from (ur home status). Which u know is not the best (that's understating the situation).If u have the mentality and the heart to help someone in the same situation then u will have the heart an mentality to forgive ur parents for the life they have chosen. Which mean u have understood why and from here decide if they r hurting or helping. That doesn't mean the abuse will go away, but it will give u the power to decide what's best for u. I had a friend who went through a similar situation, he was abuse from ages 4 -16 from home. I met him around ur age people says I made a big different but I still don't c it that way. Because life had torture him so much frm the physical and mental abuses then threw in the sexual abuse, by the time he was 19, his mentality was no where near urs to heal so he let life take the best of him (r.i.p.). I still haven't healed, but I see u at the same age I met him, and I know u will find a way out and keep ur head strong just please help urself because u deserve it, u have a whole life ahead of u. Ur smart I hope this helps.

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