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Jul 25, 2014
JC:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

When terrible things happen to us as children, we often blame ourselves for what we did and didn't do. We pass judgments on ourselves based on knowledge and understanding and maturity that occurs as we move through the various ages and stages of our lives. But that is so unfair to our younger selves. You were very much afraid that this pedophile would carry out his threat against your parents. And when you got a bit older, you may have realized that without proof nothing could be done. Whatever the reason you didn't tell, try not to judge. Try not to go through all the scenarios that are so easy to go through in your mind when you blame yourself for something that wasn't your fault. If this sick and twisted person harmed other children, it's on him. Yes, you could have told. But you don't know what you don't know. You did what you did out of fear, out of vulnerability. It's what you do now that's important. It's how you use what you know now that can make a difference. Perhaps speaking aloud your story, your regrets can help others who find themselves in the same type of situation. Find purpose in what happened to you, JC. Then help others. You might be surprised how much healing can happen when you do. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Jul 31, 2014
A few thoughts.
by: AnonymousT

It was never your secret, it was his & his shame so be easy on yourself in that respect. You may not have told but an 8 yr old thinks differently, it's that simple. Be kind to your 8 yr old self.

Secondly, I think you were very brave and smart. You got away & you didn't go back. Sure you were scared, as any child WOULD be but most importantly you made a very wise decision.

Please release yourself of guilt, it is not yours. And please remember...you were EIGHT.

Be kind to you,
T

Aug 03, 2014
Truth
by: Anonymous

Power must be given to the people. The oppressed are the poor, the poor are the mistreated. The mistreated are the ones lacking unity within themselves. We must delve into the unconscious to unify ourselves and our planet.

Aug 25, 2014
May God Bless you
by: Emily

You were brave! For you never went back and you moved on! Don't ever hold anything back even tears! God loves you!

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