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Aug 14, 2014
Lacey:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

Forgetting would mean that all you endured was for no purpose whatsoever. And what a shame that would be. What a shame it would be to have gone through all of that, for no good to come of it. You are the one who gets to decide how you will make purpose out of what you lived through. No one else. You are the one who gets to decide who will continue to be in your life and who will not be there. You are the one who gets to decide what your legacy will be. Will it be one of victimhood? Or will it be one of victory? Will it consume you? Or will it inspire you? We so often hear of how others are such an inspiration for getting through what they endured, for finding a way to heal. But we forget that we ourselves can be the one who is inspirational. Healing is a process, but it starts by making the choice to heal. By recognizing that as adults, we get to take our power back. That we get to control our own destiny. What happened to you at the hands of so many abusers was horrific. The fact that you were taken advantage of, that your vulnerabilities were used against you in the most vile way, does not mean that you are now sentenced to a life of misery. Unless that's what you choose for yourself. Make the choice to heal, Lacey. You didn't get to choose when you were young and vulnerable. And yes, you were set up early in life for more forms of abuse, but that doesn't mean you have to continue being harmed by that abuse. Choose to heal. Choose a path that will bring purpose to what you endured. And in those choices, you will be release from the emotional prison, a prison that only you have the key to unlocked. I send you love, light and healing energy. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Aug 14, 2014
wow
by: Anonymous

Wow, Lacey... you really survived a lot. I thought my story was sad, but you endured a lot worse world than mine was. I hope you find love, and healing and forgiveness. That has been my key. Forgiveness. Of my abusers and of myself for not protecting myself. I'm sorry you had to see what you did. We are supposed to be proud to be American, but from what I see on this website, it's like a whole other country... only one in four children are abused, according to what I have read as a nurse, so most children don't experience abuse. I hope you find yourself in that quality of life. I understand not wanting children and not wanting to get married. I have been married 26 years but never had children. I was too sick to be able to take good care of anyone else, really. I love animals and have had three beautiful dogs. I was so attached to one of the dogs that I wouldn't even travel with my husband to visit his Mother in Holland. I would stay home with her! Animals are a great resource. Try getting a job with a veterinarian if you can't handle people.

Take care.

Aug 14, 2014
The horror
by: Anonymous

Lacey, I hope you're out of that house now; thank goodness you survived! TELL, TELL, TELL!!! And keep telling until someone will finally listen to you and help you! Please look into reporting them to the police ASAP because no one has the right to ever do something so sick to their own flesh and blood because it's against the law and abuse of every kind is a vile, nasty thing.

Aug 15, 2014
Keep your Head High!
by: Boy01

Lacy never give in to how you feel about your past. You are stronger than you think. Why else would you still be here? How else did you overcome your eating disorder? You are strong. You are not broken because you did not let life fully brake you. You are beautiful, you are strong and independent. Have faith in yourself. You don't have to let your past ruin you today. What happened to you was not your fault and never think for a sec that it was. I send you love and prayers Lacy.

Aug 16, 2014
yes, even THAT was abuse
by: nobody at all

i just wanted 2 say that your dad rubbing your butt that 1 time WAS sexual abuse. even tho it "wasn't as bad" as a lot of your other abuse, it still was sexual abuse. I had a boss when I was 16 do this a lot, and also a teacher, often, right in front of the whole class, at maybe age 10. these 2 people definitely violated my body and contributed 2 my overall lifelong problems, so I just want 2 confirm 2u that yes, this was certainly abuse in my book. I had worse molestations and other violations than these butt-rubbings, but they still definitely count.

bless you! you've had a lot to deal with. the more that happens 2 someone, generally the worse they do in life later on, unless they get some really good therapy. that seems 2b the 1 thing that can really help us heal. we need and DESERVE someone to give us the support and caring we missed out on earlier 2 such ill effect. a good therapist can really help a person move into a much better place.

all the best 2u, lacey! (if that's your real name, I've always loved that name, and I wish 4u a life as beautiful as your name, starting right away).

Aug 18, 2014
Forgiveness
by: Lizandra

After reading your post, I am baffled with your strength. It takes a lot of courage to write in detail events such as yours. I couldn't finish reading it except for your closing paragraph. I just wanted to add something that sounds very cliche and probably something you wouldn't understand at first, forgiving those who hurt us is a wonderful and great first step to overcoming the trauma and scars they have left on you. You write beautifully so you must be very smart. And in closing, your smart, strong, and most likely beautiful too. Healing from within is a task that no one can do for you, only you. And a pray to the Greatest of God's, Yahweh, doesn't hurt, it's a relief. Many blessings!

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