Getting Away With Sexual Assault of a Child
(Centereach, NY, USA)
I am a 42-year-old woman living on Long Island in New York and I have a 10-year-old son who was sexually abused by my own daughter 5 years ago. This has been the worst nightmare I could have ever imagined! These past five years have been literal Hell for my son, a Hell which doesn't seem to have an ending in sight!
My daughter was 14 and my son was 5 when the abuse allegations came out. My son began to act out in a sexual nature in his classroom with other boys and I was called to the school to be told that he was telling the principal and the school therapist that his sister had been "doing bad things" to him. Later that same day, I had Sexual Crimes Unit Detectives and Child Protective Services at my front door wanting to speak with my 5-year-old son. I let them speak to him but they told me I could not be in the same room when they interviewed him. As I listened from behind my bedroom door, I heard things coming from my son's mouth that I pray no other parent will ever have to hear. He told of how his sister made him have sex with her, oral and intercourse. I heard him tell of how his "daddy" took pictures and watched them while performing these unspeakable acts on my son. I was horrified! This day was the beginning of my nightmare.
My daughter was initially charged with felony sexual assault which was eventually dropped to Juvenile misdemeanour sexual assault. She was sent to a girls group home, and there was an Order of Protection where there was to be no contact whatsoever with my son. She was brought back to court because she broke the order of protection by mailing my son a card. I was the one who made her therapist aware of this card. She was then sent to a facility for female sexual offenders in Virginia. All the while, my son is having extreme difficulty in school, sexually acting out with other children, and many other behavioral problems which continued to escalate.
September 2007, I had to have my son sent to a hospital for behavioral problems because there were no doctors or therapists who were trained to treat sexually abused children. He needed help so bad, and I was at a loss as a parent who wanted him to get help but could not find any. This past February 2008, I had to voluntarily place him in Suffolk County Foster Care System to be placed in a facility that would be able to help him with his many issues. This is all stemming from the sexual abuse at the hands of not only my daughter but at the hands of his father as well; who by the way was never charged with anything! My son now will be in this treatment facility for boys for about 2-3 years.
My message today is that there needs to be more help for these children of sexual abuse. There also needs to be a PROPER and DETAILED investigation into sexual abuse allegations of young children like my son. I feel that his father was never investigated fully and SHOULD have been charged with sexual assault and abuse of my son. This is why I have titled this article, Getting Away With Sexual Assault of a Child.
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