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Sep 11, 2014
Minnie:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You could be the poster child for the negative effects of spanking. So many refuse to accept the many negative effects that spanking a child brings into their lives. And now evidence shows that even when parents/guardians spank out of so-called love, the effects go beyond that of spanking out of anger. When a child is struck, even on the buttocks, with calm and so-called love, they are left very troubled by the fact that someone they trust is striking them. The result is a very twisted idea of what love is and that the people they trust the most are going to hurt them. Discipline is important when raising children. But raising one's hand is just too costly to the child. The risk is too great. But you can heal from this, Minnie. As damaged as you see yourself now, you most definitely can heal. What you endured was terrible during a time when you have no control or power, during a time when you were the most vulnerable. You are no longer that vulnerable child, much as it may feel as though you are at times. You have the power to heal. And it starts by changing your perspective. Rather than see yourself as a victim, see the purpose in what happened to you. Find ways to use what happened to you to help others. Speak out against spanking, for example. Share your story as evidence against the practice. In this way, you will bring purpose to what you suffered, and in the process, possibly prevent someone else from suffering the same fate. There can be great healing leaps in that. I send you love, light and healing energy, Minnie. Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Darlene Barriere
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Sep 12, 2014
abuse
by: John G Mass

Hi I know all about abuse, I lived there for many years, I published my story on this web site, its the greatest, period. Look under John G mass to find and read what I did and had to say about abuse. I survived my ultra and complete abuse because I learned very early on the abused in most cases did nothing to cause the abuse they received. I learned I didn't deserve the abuse I got so I forced myself to never allow the abuse I received to change who I was ever. Does the abuse change who you are? Yes it does because its not normal for a child to have to live through all the abuse they receive but YOU DO NOT HAVE TO ACCEPT IT, I fought letting it make me into something I was not. Did it change who I was yes, but because I fought against the change all my life and I am now 81 years of age and I am still fighting the abuse I received starting around when I was 5 or so. A much bigger problem I found was the fact that my parents, those who abused me big time way back when were the same people whose genes that made me as a person in their image was a much bigger problem for me. I fought against the nasty effect those genes caused me to be all my life. I am still fighting those effects to this day but I know all about this and am able to control the outcome because I understand the how and why. I have three children that are very accomplished adults around 50 or so today and love and affection exist every day all the time in our relationships because I know better. Abuse in all its varied forms is not found in our lives let me say for sure. You also can conquer these things if you want to as well, it simply takes the desire and you can get there, I know, good luck....

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