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Jan 23, 2009
The "reflective" mirror...
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You are such a forgiving and understanding soul, Tom; and that has gotten you far in your adult life. It has helped to shape you and give you tremendous insight; insight that your clients can benefit from. You have turned pain into power through your work.

I too learned along my own path toward healing and recovery that true understanding about BOTH myself AND my abusers came from realizing that only I could make the choices necessary to get to where I wanted to be, and that passing the blame for my adult troubles would get me nowhere fast. I had to accept responsibility for my own actions and inactions; after all, I expected my parents to do just that—rules and expectations apply equally. The reflection in my own mirror was one I didn't want to face, but one that I eventually embraced. Only in complete acceptance of who and what I was (flaws and all), what I came from (severe abuse from parents who themselves were severely abused as children), and how I was personally responsible for my own adult troubles and therefore could choose to mend them, could I come to the healthy place I am today. It sounds as though we are in a similar place.

Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

Darlene Barriere
Violence & Abuse Prevention Educator
Author: On My Own Terms, A Memoir

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