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Mar 06, 2011
Cheri:
by: Darlene Barriere - Webmaster

You are well along the road of healing and recovery, which is why I've made your story one of healing. No matter what you endured as a child, indeed, as an adult, at the hands of your abusive controlling mother, you still found the path of freedom. This freedom eluded your mother. She allowed whatever happened in her life to warp her thinking and actions. Thinking and actions that resulted in terrible abuse for you, which resulted in estrangement from her precious daughter. If you haven't already, consider reading my article on this site titled Why parents target a specific child for abuse. The article supports your belief that your mother targeted you for abuse. Just understand that the abuse had nothing whatsoever to do with YOU; it had everything to do with HER. You did nothing to deserve being abused. What's wonderful to learn about you, Cheri, is that you are no longer being targeted, either in person or inside your person. You haven't taken the torch from your mother. Keep up the great work! Thank you for sharing your story with my visitors and me.

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Mar 06, 2011
Such uncontrolled sadism
by: Anonymous

Cheri, your so-called mother is wrong. You are not lazy; you are not stupid; you are not evil; you are not ridiculous; you are not pathetic; you are not needy; you are not unteachable; you are not "too big for my boots"; you are smart, articulate, beautiful, kind, strong and worthy of love, dignity and respect. Don't ever believe any of those lies she was spewing. She is so twisted, sadistic and messed up that she doesn't even know how to take care of herself, never mind be a mother to you. She doesn't know how to love even herself; all she ever knew is hate, so she should've known better and loved and cherished you. She didn't deserve to have such a beautiful, smart, wonderful daughter like you...but most of all, you didn't deserve to have such an uncaring, ignorant, unloving, cruel, twisted, ruthless, barbaric, sadistic mother. Oh, and did I mention that she is also a control freak with an uneducated, ignorant mind? Mothers who abuse their own daughters are one of the real abusers. Oh, and I can't even believe that she even went so far into setting you up for failure. This isn't housework; this is torture and it was also about power and control. Like I said, she was a control freak and I'm sorry to even believe that she really wanted you to fail while you were doing housework and even doing some exam, so that she could keep controlling you. Oh, and you are not to blame for her sadistic behavior; that sicko of a mother is to blame because she chose to abuse you. You were the child; she was the adult; she had all the power and she misused it over you in the most vile way ever. You see, most people who treat somebody the way you were treated often do it out of jealousy because they could never be such a beautiful shining star that you are. Oh, and it is equally wrong for her to try to take away your freedom and bring you home in order to regain control over you. You know why? Because she was jealous and wanted control. She didn't want you to be happy and live the perfect life she never had; she wanted you to be miserable just like her, but don't let her do that. Don't worry about what she had to say to you anymore. Be happy and keep living your own life because haters and power-mad tyrants are not worth the time. Oh, and she was also a coward because only a coward would do such things like that to such an innocent, defenseless little girl you once were. The path that she chose was inexcusable. I'm glad that you're in a safe place now; I hope that you will try counselling in order to erase all the effects of all the pain that you endured at the hands of your sadistic mother. I am thinking of you.

Mar 07, 2011
God obviously wanted me to be born I was no mistake:
by: maurice

Always believe in yourself Cheri: Adult: be they parents, guardians, teachers, minders. whoever have alot to answer for especially those who are control freaks and as was your mothers generation diciplinarians which basically was total abuse of the child/adolecent when they were innocent and vunerable: At the mercy of who ever: Those who used their position of power to abuse children/aolecent should be ashamed of themselves: should be islolated in a place where they would have to live with thier crime of ruining a childs life: You are a supreme example of that Cheri: As you have left finally found the wonderful and beautiful you I won't remind you of those days: Sadly you were so afraid of your mother that she had complete control over you even until recent years: Cheri Live well: Laugh alot: LOVE much: Live your life to the full with loving, caring, cherishing people family and real freinds: Now you can let go: It is ever so tragic and sad it had to be so for you at the hands of one who should have loved and cherished you: Cheri God Danced the Day you were born because he created you, allowed you to be birthed but sure had no hand act or part in the way A MOTHER treaded her own flesh and blood: Human beings who abuse don't be thinking of God's LOVE for his children: Thank you Cheri for affriming me in that belief: I was born of a single mom who loved and cherished me: It was other bad people who abused me:

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